I am a moron

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Yeah. Been there. My stepdad used to take off my glasses before he started hitting me, so he wouldn't damage them. The implication was obvious--the glasses had cost him money, so they were worth more than me.

I expect most people here would have ran away if they were in your position, and we wouldn't all be morons now would we...

My mother would always blow up at me for stupid reasons, very similar in to way the OP's mother blew up.

For example, I liked to listen to my mp3 player while washing dishes. One day, my mom said that I could not listen to music and wash dishes at the same time because the dishes would not be as clean.
So I washed one more plate while listening to music, turned off my music, and washed another plate identical to the previous one. I showed mom both plates and asked her if she could determine which one I had washed while listening to music.
She could not tell any differences between the two plates. They were both spotless and sparkling clean.

Then she started yelling and crying, calling me a disrespectful (insert expletive synonymous with "female dog" here) and a stupid ret*d, throwing all sorts of abusive words at me. I did not yell back or call names. I only continued to ask her if she can determine the difference between the two plates.
Then she started to grab at my hair and slap my face. I did not hit back, either. I decided to leave. Even trying to leave was a struggle, though, because she was trying to hold the door shut as she was hitting me and pulling my hair.

But I got out and quickly went to a friend's house for about four hours to give mom time to calm down from her unreasonable rage.

These events were somewhat common in that household. So as soon as I turned 18, I moved out! Haha!


Leaving is a very smart thing to do. You're not only removing yourself from a very hostile environment, but you're also giving both you and your mother time to calm down.
It's better than staying and letting things escalate to something even more serious, like physical injury.

you need to report this to the police. she is physically, verbally,and emotionally abusing you. You deserve better than this. She is assalting you, and it is a crime. If this is how she is most of the time, then you are better off somewhere else, but need to go about doing it the legal way. As it is, you can be arrested, if you live in the US, and put in juvinile detention for running away. But of course, that would be away from you mom. you would then be able to tell the judge what was going on, but in the mean time, you would be sitting in dentention. If you have relative that can take you in, then do it. I grew up living like this, being the whipping girl, from my parents and my brother, and I still have physical scars, and worse, is the emotional scars that will be there forever, long after the physical scars heal. GET OUT of that situation.

Juvenile detention would probably be worse than an abusive home in which your life was not in danger. Remember that kids can be just as abusive as adults, and sticking yourself in with a bunch of criminals is not a nice idea.

But yeah. Get out. Like I said, to a relative's or friend's house. There ought to be an abuse hotline type thing in your area--if you've got access to the Internet, you should find something like that.

Best case, you and your mom go to counseling, she learns to stop blowing up and start communicating clearly, and you move back home until you find a place of your own. You could theoretically end up in the foster care system, but if a relative or friend is willing to take you in, you won't, because there are too many kids that need placement and not enough spots.

You are living with an abusive parent. You don't deserve to be abused. You are not a moron for leaving an abusive situation---it's called self preservation. Do whatever you can to get out. Can you stay with your friend? Whatever you do, be sure to have a plan to build your future. Be sure to stay in school and finish your education. Be good to yourself. Do things to improve yourself and learn as much as you can about the world. Achieve. Practice positive self-talk.

I once had a chance to leave my abusive home and live with my grandpa. I didn't. I should have. Do what is good and right for you. You don't deserve to be hit and verbally abused.