How do I be normal....

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How do I be just normal enough to not either push people away or make people hate me?

1. Don't ask Wrong Planet how to be normal. lol

2. Why do you wan tto be normal so badly? What's so bad or un normal about you anyway?

No matter how hard you try to be 'normal', people will still hate you or be pushed away, because there will always be a slight difference about you that many people find offputting.

Be yourself. Find people similar to you.

Don't fake normality, because the facade will always have cracks in it, and will inevitably crumble under stress.

When you find out the answer, PLEASE tell me, so I can finally fit in somewhere.

[quote="Padium"]How do I be just normal[\quote]

It's impossible to be a setting on the washer.

You don't have to be normal; you just have to communicate well enough to tell them, basically, "Yes, I'm weird; no, I don't want to hurt you; and if I bug you, tell me and we'll work it out."

or those of you who are mathies, I want to approach normal not actually be normal, almost like a limit. Just hit my personal limit of normal. I want to be able to fit in with society enough to not be hated by almost evryone. I dont' want to be hated and stick out in a crowd like I do.

Well, you could just be quiet all the time and that would pretty much guarantee people wouldn't hate you. But, you'd probably be miserable your entire life. OR you could take a chance and actually talk to people.

I recommend the latter. ;]

What makes you think everyone hates you so much? You'd have to be pretty horrible for everyone to hate you, so perhaps some of it is in your head?

I am one of those aspies that are very very very awkward socially... I tend to push people away unintentionally. Most people either have no choice to be around me, or are to prejudiced to want to stick around and get to know me.

Oh, and I see you must have played TWEWY. That was an amazing game. The music in it was really good too. Neku just seems so much like me in a lot of ways.

Don't ask us...

Well, in my opinion, nobody is normal, normal, means 'common' mostly, and AS is common, so we are all normal. What you'd be, if you were 'normal' would be 'alike'..

It does no good to try and be reasoning with normal people they will judge you anyways.
many are vary hypocritical, hell some I know even fake being autistic just for the sake of sympathy and to give
them selves and others excuses for their wrong actions or even for state and local and privet disability funding..

Believe me I wish I could be normal as well, the truth of it is I like my self and who I am, I just do not like having so many social deficits due to autism that I can hardly ever make or keep friends not to mentions a relationship, I would trade in all the wonderful benefits of my autism just so I could have a normal happy lasting social life with a wife and children.
but I cant, all I can do is take life one day at a time and keep in mind life is what you make it, accept that as your lot.
learn grow do the best you can and be as happy as you can, thats all you can do.

Last edited by Forsaken on 10 Jan 2009, 5:22 pm, edited 1 time in total.

padium...do not even try. just be YOU.

Neku was kind of a combination of Sora and Squall I thought. I also really dig the unique music.

Anyways, I can be pretty awkward myself, but I'm sure eventually you'll find someone who can learn to appreciate you in all your awkwardness. :] You should never change yourself to please others though.

I feel the same way. I'm fed up of being this way, and I feel like I've had more than my fair share of problems. Sometimes I record myself practicing expressions, conversations, reactions, etc. The problem is, when I watch myself back on video I always strike myself as weird; I hate it. The problem is, it's still not seeing me through the eyes of an NT.

If someone knows about Asperger's even seeing me would probably hit them with a *BOOM*. I've been told I'm normal, act normal, do everything normally, but that's what I'd expect people to say. Even I'd say it if I was posed the same question. I guess if someone turned around and said "actually, you're kinda...." I'd probably want to lose them as a friend right away.

I can't really answer your question 'cause I'm still trying to figure out myself whether I'd be better off posing as normal, just to get me by, but if you wanna be normal, try to blend with fashions, smile a lot and socialise, you'll probably get much better with time.

Try real hard.

Yeah, I agree with this. You have to be up front with them and they can either accept you or not. If they don't want to accept you there isn't much you can do about it.