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aspiescan
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18 Feb 2009, 11:01 pm

Hi everyone:

how everyone , knew that have asperger?

i just knew because meet a friend and well he told me about that could have asperger, well at first time i get shocked but when started to research about that i noticed the symptoms offset were matched almost 97% and well were kinda ok,know because many things that people did as see to face when you talk to somebody etc etc i did not and in my 13, till 20s i not found an explanation of why i did not that normal things, well also have some problems with speech just not serious enough and well, my mom just raised me as somebody normal when she know i am not, i found an report of the 1990 that were performed to me test etc etc and they said or left open the probability that could have some type of autism spectrum disorder, not were they clear in the diagnostic but the things detected in 1990 were to me an confiormation about that.

well my family reject the idea that i think i am aspie, my doctor that see for depression too reject that suspect that i have., of anyway just they just reject because think that is like very bad aspie thing or autism spectrum disorders.

well how yours knew about asperger and how family react about that?

greetings

aspiescan



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19 Feb 2009, 12:02 am

Hi aspiescan,

I was diagnosed last year (at 38) by my therapist, who I was seeing due to problems in my marriage. It turns out the therapist is a specialist in ASD with children as well, so she was pretty well tuned into my symptoms. She "suggested" the diagnosis at one session. I went home and, in typical Aspie fashion, read everything I could find on Autism and Asperger's. Everything pretty much described me, and it was a strange experience to recognize that in myself.

It was pretty difficult to get my mother to accept the diagnosis. I think it was a combination of old ideas about autism, and not wanting to admit that her son was "broken". My sister was great.

Cheers!

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aspiescan
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19 Feb 2009, 12:04 am

i understand my family not want recognize about sperger still thinking i am normal



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19 Feb 2009, 12:45 am

I was 18 and had been out of school for a year and my mother had noticed that I hadn't had much social interaction in that time since mandatory socializing ended with high school. She mentioned my lack of a social life and a few other things to a coworker who suggested I might have Asperger's. I of course did a lot of research on AS and noticed a lot of similarities but I decided to focus on the things that didn't match up because I already had cerebral palsy and am always fighting to be treated like an adult and not a vegetable. I thought having AS would be a huge step back in not being treated like someone with a mind of their own. My mother persisted and I got referred to a shrink who then of course diagnosed me. My mother accepts it but feels guilty for all the times she yelled at me for things I didn't even understand I was doing wrong (theres a lot more acceptance in that area now) my siblings are another matter along with extended family who all just want to deny theres anything wrong but then again my one sister denies I have Cerebral Palsy and that actually visible



aspiescan
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19 Feb 2009, 1:15 am

well i just my mom just not accept that fact,she believe normal that not have friends,lack of socialization some rare behaviors and she just think or blame to other things just they do hard to me because i have assumed the aspie thing ,they when had friends just think bad things about thems, and well just they my family believe normal that already not learn how comb hair or tie shoes, i think they know that an not normal just hid that from me



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19 Feb 2009, 10:24 am

At age 39, I was watching a NOVA documentary, "What makes us Human." In it was a segment about a 10 year old boy with Asperger's and I was floored by the similarities to my own life and all his 'abnormal' quirks which I always thought were normal but I just sucked at overcoming. Learned all I could and confirmed I have it.

And yeah, my immediate family doesn't buy it. Mom and Dad got a "garbage can diagnosis" on me when I was a kid ("There's something wrong, we just aren't sure what"). Partly because they don't want a kid whose 'broken.' But I think also there's a huge guilt factor. In their generations, mental disorders of any kind were always viewed as the parents' fault. Even today, for my siblings to accept it means accepting that they didn't see the signs when I was a kid and didn't raise me 'right.'

Despite my assurance that they had no way of knowing and it's nobody's 'fault.'

My less immediate family - nieces, nephews, cousins - have no problem accepting my dx and working with me a little. Hence I communicate way better with them than with the siblings!



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19 Feb 2009, 10:51 am

Everything I know about Asperger's I learned on the internet. I was on a mail list several years back. Amanda Baggs was a member, and I related to her so strongly that when she said she was leaving because the list wasn't a comfortable place for an autistic, I had to find out what that was all about. One thing led to another....