anyone else NOT looking for a partner?

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are you looking for love?
no, and actively avoiding it 21%  21%  [ 23 ]
no, but I wouldn't mind if it happened 45%  45%  [ 50 ]
yes, passively looking 23%  23%  [ 26 ]
yes, actively looking 10%  10%  [ 11 ]
no, it's just you anna, you asocial weirdo! 2%  2%  [ 2 ]
Total votes : 112

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20 Mar 2009, 3:33 pm

im waiting for someone to climb in my window. seriously.

i keep it open for the cat allready, so, you never know.

so far i only got cops :(
sneaky -uckers :(


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20 Mar 2009, 5:48 pm

anna-banana wrote:
GoatOnFire wrote:

I would like to prove to myself that I could get a relationship, but I might regret it if I actually get into one.


lol yeah I'd like that too, provided that no one would get hurt in the process.

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im the 1% in the vote. i was just kidding about voting you as a weirdo. i thought there would be others who would have joked, but apparently not. you guys should have some sense of humour. just kidding, but i assume you were leading us into our own sarcasm? im that way, too, but i've found someone i like a lot.


yes! finally! thank you! :D

I was quite disappointed that this option was so unpopular...


I think you are asocial weirdo but still far less than me....



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20 Mar 2009, 6:10 pm

I chose No, but I wouldn't mind if it happened

I'm not looking for a partner, and I'm happy being single. Trying to enjoying my solitude, I have scared some guys that were seeking for a relationship with me :lol:

Having a boyfriend sounds like a lot of bull$h!t for me. Too much physical contact, waste of time, . . .

I've never had a boyfriend. . . But, if someday comes "apparently my kind of guy", maybe I would give him a chance.



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20 Mar 2009, 7:24 pm

The problem I have with relationships, is that I don't like all the expectations that come with them.

I start to feel like there are rules I have to follow in order to play the role of "The Girlfriend", but I'm not quite clear on what those rules might be. I seem to be setting myself up for failure.

It's a shame, because I have a side to me that is extremely romantic. The idea is so very appealing, but the practice of it is repellant, LOL

I feel the same way about motherhood. More so, actually. I wonder what causes that.


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20 Mar 2009, 8:01 pm

Philothea wrote:
The problem I have with relationships, is that I don't like all the expectations that come with them.

I start to feel like there are rules I have to follow in order to play the role of "The Girlfriend", but I'm not quite clear on what those rules might be. I seem to be setting myself up for failure.

It's a shame, because I have a side to me that is extremely romantic. The idea is so very appealing, but the practice of it is repellant, LOL

I feel the same way about motherhood. More so, actually. I wonder what causes that.

You would probably have a much better time dating other Aspies, if you could find one in a similar situation.

Me, I look passively, but not actively. I'll keep my eyes and ears open for anyone interesting, but I'm not going to go out of my way to find someone, or get out the megaphone and announce to the world that I'm single.



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20 Mar 2009, 8:23 pm

You might be on to something, CerebralDreamer. But he'd better be some extra special aspie for me to take that chance again.... maybe one that looks like Gerard Butler.... with green eyes (as long as I'm dreaming) LOL!

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Me, I look passively, but not actively.

Me too.


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20 Mar 2009, 9:11 pm

I don't need to actively avoid love; love changed its name and moved to Wyoming. :roll:


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20 Mar 2009, 9:14 pm

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I don't need to actively avoid love; love changed its name and moved to Wyoming. :roll:

Please tell me that was a joke. :lol:



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20 Mar 2009, 9:20 pm

CerebralDreamer wrote:
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I don't need to actively avoid love; love changed its name and moved to Wyoming. :roll:

Please tell me that was a joke. :lol:

Of course it's a joke; no one lives in Wyoming.


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20 Mar 2009, 11:15 pm

if it happens it happens, if not I'm happy with being the favorite aunt/cousin for the remainder of my life.



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22 Mar 2009, 10:37 am

Philothea wrote:
The problem I have with relationships, is that I don't like all the expectations that come with them.

I start to feel like there are rules I have to follow in order to play the role of "The Girlfriend", but I'm not quite clear on what those rules might be. I seem to be setting myself up for failure.

It's a shame, because I have a side to me that is extremely romantic. The idea is so very appealing, but the practice of it is repellant, LOL

I feel the same way about motherhood. More so, actually. I wonder what causes that.


I absolutely agree.

back in the days when I myslef was passively looking, I told my friends (who kept pressuring me to find a partner) that even if I did start going out with someone, they would never be informed. (they did get angry about that, but now they no longer ask).

I just find the whole concept of "introducing the new boyfriend" and "acting like a couple" highly repellent, as you called it. one of my previous "relationships" (it never went past 3 months, hence the brackets) actually ended because I refused to meet the guys friends and family.


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22 Mar 2009, 12:21 pm

^
Yeah i can understand what you mean - my first relationship was
like that, meeting the whole damn family and everything several
times, and i just didnt get it. I didnt want to date all these people,
it was the girl i was interested in. Later i met someone who was
more like me and that was nice, non of us had any wish to introduce
anyone to anything, we just liked to hang out together.



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22 Mar 2009, 5:02 pm

ImTheGuyThatDidThat wrote:
^
Yeah i can understand what you mean - my first relationship was
like that, meeting the whole damn family and everything several
times, and i just didnt get it. I didnt want to date all these people,
it was the girl i was interested in. Later i met someone who was
more like me and that was nice, non of us had any wish to introduce
anyone to anything, we just liked to hang out together.


I feel that this is well written and that I myself feel the same way about this, without a doubt.


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22 Mar 2009, 11:00 pm

ImTheGuyThatDidThat wrote:
^
Yeah i can understand what you mean - my first relationship was
like that, meeting the whole damn family and everything several
times, and i just didnt get it. I didnt want to date all these people,
it was the girl i was interested in. Later i met someone who was
more like me and that was nice, non of us had any wish to introduce
anyone to anything, we just liked to hang out together.


I'd be more concerned about the day she would have to meet my family. 8O


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22 Mar 2009, 11:41 pm

anna-banana wrote:
I just find the whole concept of "introducing the new boyfriend" and "acting like a couple" highly repellent, as you called it. one of my previous "relationships" (it never went past 3 months, hence the brackets) actually ended because I refused to meet the guys friends and family.

ImTheGuyThatDidThat wrote:
^
Yeah i can understand what you mean - my first relationship was
like that, meeting the whole damn family and everything several
times, and i just didnt get it. I didnt want to date all these people,
it was the girl i was interested in. Later i met someone who was
more like me and that was nice, non of us had any wish to introduce
anyone to anything, we just liked to hang out together.

Hee, you guys have no idea. Trying dating the daughter of a former Pentecostal, who used to be a United States Marine Drill Sergeant, who was fired from his last job because he threw a car part at a coworker. I was sleeping in the same house as him, wrapped up with his daughter through the night.

Surprisingly, her father and I got along great. I'm still baffled by how much I risked to climb in bed with her that night. I know he knew how close we were. Maybe he respected me for caring enough about her to have the stones to do that. I'd rather not meet him now that I've broken up with her though.