Astarael wrote:
I'm usually very polite in terms of "thanks, please" and things like that, but when it comes to manners in other ways I'm not the best. I remember at a friends house I got offered a biscuit with dip on it.. I have very very very select ways of eating, and cannot stand mixed foods, plus I don't eat alot of foods as it is... so I was offered this biscuit and I politely rejected it, only to find myself being lectured on the rudeness of rejecting food offered to you when you are a guest.. I couldn't take that at all because I was being rude simply by acting as the person I am.. :( So my manners aren't as good as they could be, but I feel I have no control over it sometimes.
Have had EXTREME food preferences all my life, genuinely find most food repulsive. People always gave me grief over it & would insist I was being rude on countless occasions when I refused what they pushed at me.
I consider it the height of rudeness-in fact, it's MEAN-to be cruel to someone solely on basis of food rejection. If I find distasteful what's being offered to me by others, it's not nice of them to castigate me for offending them somehow.
It's like asking me "don't you want me to slam your finger in the door ? No ? Why not ? You've hurt my feelings now, you bad person ! !!"
How dare people get so outraged at me for declining, I didn't ask to be this way & it causes me plenty of problems eating, period. I'm not obligated to induce discomfort/sickening sensations in myself, by consuming something, in order to placate someone else's fragile ego.
If I dislike a food or drink, it's idiotic for me to lie because that perpetuates the wrong idea of what I really do like, and it snowballs into a bad sitcom plot. No thanks.
Otherwise: I'm rude when I feel I've little other choice. I'm polite when I'm able. Realize that leaves a lot to be defined & I can't measure where I'd fall between the extremes.
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