Older Men vs. Younger Men

Post Reply New Topic

Not sure if I follow.

I would think that any girl would find younger men hot and attractive just like older men find younger women hot or attractive.

As for maturity level, I don't think it's all about age. In fact I think I'm more mature than some women that're older than me and even guys.....then again I can come off very childish when interacting.

I usually try to stay away from generalizations made on genders. Sometimes there is social stigma attached to it. I mean let's face it, Demi Moore got more attention in the press for being with Ashton Kusher who was 15 years younger than herself than most men who normally marry women almost half their age! I didn't even think Demi Moore looked even half bad, in fact I found her rather pretty. I mean look at Donald Trump and his wife.....he looks like he could be her grandad.....

So I guess what I'm trying to say is each to their own.

Thanks, everyone - for the reality check and for talking me down from the ledge.

Hmmmm....yeah - internet porn. Freedom of speech... Yeahh.... Probably don't want to get me started there either.

Well - if there is safety in numbers and there is still so much work to do on behalf of decent people of both sexes - I'll stick around.

And as far as Ticker goes - I totally understand. Her post was the most eye-opening - in terms of personal safety - that I've read here. Its hard to explain - while I don't share anyone's extreme views - I still believe we have something to learn from them. Especially if they feel they have been threatened or vicitimized. (Even more so when it comes to sexual harrassment and sex crimes!)

I will admit that I am a mother tiger and self-proclaimed protector of girls and women and nice guys everywhere. I eat bullies for breakfast. Therefore, since I still have some anger management issues there - I will refrain from reading relationship-type posts. (As tempting as it always is to verbally kick a guy in the balls.)

Fortunately, its pretty easy to tell the aspie jerks from the aspie cool guys here - so I don't see that any of us are in real danger. But I also think its okay for us to go all crazy when we see guys (of whatever age) discussing preying on women - or guys, for that matter! See how I brought it all back to the predatory accusations that started the sh** storm in the first place?

I am kinda uncomfortable and awkward with myself, and I am unattracted to the vast majority of people at any age. I have honestly no idea what your average "young hot dude" would see in me and i encounter busloads of them on a regular basis on account of my running a venue...and attraction wise I find them to be largely homogeneous and boring...even the ones that any red-blooded heterosexual female would typically drool over..I would not wish to pollute some young puppy-dog of a man with my frumpy woman-child wiles...They would surely have to be a weirdo to find me attractive...and I am not attracted to people who don't find me attractive.

I did date a guy 5 years my Jr. for 6 months..
He acted his age, and I act like a 12 year old most of the time..and he was bigger and taller than me, so it seemed like he was older than me. One never would have guessed I was old enuff to be his big sister. The problems we had had nothing much to do with the age difference, nor did that have anything to do with why we were dating.....except that perhaps the reason I ended up being coupled with him in the first place probably had to do with my level of emotional immaturity and impulsivity..We were both pretty foolish to get mixed up with each other.
What was funny was when he would catch himself referring to 30-year-old women as if they were old ladies... Not intending to insult me, but out of habit...He would also refer to another person he dated long ago as a "much older woman"..but she is a year younger than me....


With much older guys, it would be kinda weird, because I am very childlike. I could not imagine a much older man being attracted to me...I am incapable of so much stuff in comparison to most women my own age...and younger...My mind was completely boggled when, as a 20 year old I was stalked by my 40-something boss...it just does not seem like it could be real to me.
When my partner was chasing after me, his girlfriend at the time called him a pedophile even though I am only 5 years younger than him....because of the way I am so very childlike.


I guess I prefer guys who are within 5 or so years of my age. Flakey is 5 years older than me and my other partner is 2 years older than me...Especially if they are childlike themselves...which they are...

Last edited by poopylungstuffing on 26 Mar 2009, 1:24 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Seconded.

I see a lot of rash generalizations made about women in a real debasing way.

Use to be worse..."Why are Women Prudes?" " Why do women play head games?"...and so on. Like it wouldn't occur to the poster that maybe it's a little insulting to someone who happens to be a female.

Hell when I compare posts here and then see guys calling women femenists as if they were man haters I have to laugh. The ratio on the posts made here that come off very blantantly bias seem to be by more guys than women especially in the Love and Dating department. I don't hardly post there for these reasons anymore.

I hardly ever see a post that says..."Men are...<insert word> by women in these posts.

I'm kind of getting sick of it and have tried to be polite about it for a while now but dayum...enough is enough!

I don't even think I've ever accused any guys here of being bigots or misogynists. Yet I see all this crap about feminazis and femenists on this forum....Pa-leaze!

<rant>

Who was it that said "youth is wasted on the young". I'm 62 and as far as I'm concerned I'm just beginning to really 'live'. Everything up to now has just been practice for the good stuff.

the only time i ever f****d men younger than me was for drugs or money. I was always sedated with heroin or methadone. i did have sex with a young adult almost teen Hare-Krishna devotee who paid fairly well. I always wondered if he raided the temple money to pay my fee.

I have pretty strange selection criteria. I dated one guy because of his fair-isle sweater (hand-knitted and sky blue, with dark complex fair-isle across the chest and the sleeve cuffs. It WAS FANTASTIC.) i dated him for about a year - well- weekend f*****g on booze and acid. I do not remember much about him, but i sure as heck remember the sweater.

It was all about the fair-isle. and this is true.

Now i am only interested in older men. one in particular, although there is two in my life.

Last edited by millie on 26 Mar 2009, 7:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Very well said, Gary.

I think men are most attractive age 45-55... I've always thought this and probably always will!

My partner Flakey seriously goes for younger girls...so he is a very good match for a young girl who likes older men.

Part of the reason is that he hasn't really grown up much himself...He reads childrens books and plays video games.

He went for me because mentally, I am so much younger than my chronological age.

His other girlfriend was born when I was in Jr. High, and she, in many ways, has the dynamics of a person who is older than me...

One thing I always wondered is whether the guys who feel like they have to push so extremely hard to get even close to having a girlfriend would even be capable of handling such a relationship in the perhaps unlikely event that they actually got it.

It makes me think that the younger guys having all these relationship problems would be better off taking a break from trying to find a relationship and instead investing in themselves instead... learning more about the world around them, developing new interests and indulging in old ones, getting acquaintances who share those interests and developing social skills in the process. Then after time has passed, see if he still thinks it's so hard to find somebody.

Young people (not just guys) can be so friggin' impatient. Time's on their side, what's the rush?

Well said. And I know I'm going to sound like the oldest fart here - but I blame "the Google".

Young people have all the answers at their fingertips and rely too much on what they read online than what they experience. "In my day" all we had was MTV, John Hughes movies and good old-fashioned "trial and error" to tell us how to meet guys (or girls - whatever).

(And look how well we turned out!)

^ Yeah MmeLePen....we are all just dandy!
i like reading your posts...even if you are my preppy opposite.

in all seriousness however, i do concur with MissConstrue, who makes some valid points above.

Ha ha! I have more hippie blood running through me - than I care to admit. My dear mom is very much like you - sometimes I think you are her - except she's 65 and would never lie about her age. Anyway - its all relative. I'm about as hippie as it gets in these parts.

I'm 16 and I'm more attracted to 14/15 yr olds. so younger for me

My boyfriend is 21, I am 19, not much of an age difference there. I am really divided on the issue, I think ultimately, it comes down more to maturity than age. I've seen too many experiences of older (wo)men dating younger (wo)men, and taking the advantage of age and so called "wisdom" and "experience" to lord over them, be condescending, and basically control their lives as though they were children rather than partners in a relationship. A relationship is a partnership, and I find that type of behaviour to be repugnant. But younger men seem to suffer from immaturity and dependence issues. So yes, more than anything, it comes to maturity. Not everyone can fit into the mold based on age.

i prefer older guys.
most of my crushes are in there 20's, 30's some in there 40's.