I am an aspie. If I got pregnant and wanted a baby, I would probably have an early abortion if it was confirmed that the baby had spina bifida or downs syndrome. However, I have heard of many cases that the tests say one thing and the child is born just fine.
If it had autism, definitely not. I would like that. I think I would like it even if the child was non-communicative. There is something about me that makes children come to me. They always seem to relate to me somehow, so I think I would be OK with an autistic child. I think it is because I understand that it is not about me and what I want; they have their own world, and as an autistic individual, that world is even bigger, more intense.
My child has Asperger's just like me. She is awesome.
I don't see a problem with early abortion. Raising a child is a huge responsibility. If people are not ready for it, they really should not have them.
In fact, I think people should have to go through an application before they can have children to prove that they are able and normal.
Let's be clear here --- I AM NORMAL. In my way, in my world. I am not talking NT or Aspie here, just... you know... nice and kind and understanding, albeit not really schmoozy or social; which in my world is normal.
So, no one would feel unwanted throughout their childhood, or misunderstood, or unloved.