My observations about physical attractiveness and arrogance

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I don't know.....I've wondered the same thing myself.

You make a valid point, but I must ask, what makes a guy want to wait around until he is 30 to start looking for romantic partners? It is difficult enough for guys to be single for a long time around 15-22, but to wait around till 26-30, that certainly is a long wait. In the mean time, a lot of these guys my age and younger will be looking at porn all the time and masturbating to relieve their lustful feelings. It sucks, it does, and it is pain an ass to wait for most (not all) women to stop being so arrogant and stuck up, and to finally wise up.

Just because a girl is attractive doesn't mean she is a total b***h. That's lumping a whole lot of women into one category.

I have been described as a pretty attractive female. I am not boasting, but I want to let you know what I have experienced.

I get rejected ALL the time. I am intelligent, nice, kind hearted, sweet and sometimes funny! My social skills are not the best, but I have learned over the years what to do in most situations, even if I don't like it.

Guys do the SAME thing you are describing. There are many, many guys that want a "b***h" for lack of a better word. I have heard guys tell me I am "too nice." Over the years I have developed more self confidence however, and though I am still no social butterfly, I can hold my own in most situations.

I think a lot of attraction, for both men AND women, has to do with how the other person perceives themselves. If you meet someone who seems to value themself, then they seem more attractive. Guys don't realize how attractive confidence is. You don't have to be the best looking man, or the life of the party. If you have a backbone and don't bend to our every whim, we will find you more attractive. I think the same thing goes for guys.

I could totally be off the mark here. After all, I AM a thirty one year old single mom! Not exactly in the place to be giving relationship advice, huh? lol

I have observed th same thing you talk about. They men want the b***h/bad-girl and the women want the ass/bad-boy. I have exerienced wanting the bad girl and rejecting the good girl. As a guy who is nice most of the time, I have had lots of women keep me as a friend and tell me about their troubles wth the bad-boy. I've been a bad-boy, gotten a girl, turned good-bo and then been dumped...

Why do we do this? Why do we want people who are bad for us? Why dn't nice people lie eachother?

As has already been stated age has a lot to do with it. Women tend to shed a lot of superficial behaviors once they reach 30, give or take a couple of years.

It also depends on "when" she became attractive. When i was a teenager i was very thin and just felt unattractive and top that off with a very critical mother and my self esteem was in the toilet. I blossomed in my early 20s and didn't even realize that i had turned into a very attractive person (no arrogance here, it is what it is. I started attracting a lot of attention from men and receiving compliments i didn't even know how to handle).

Since I didn't really get this way until my early 20s the shy and awkward teen still lived in my head somewhat and arrogance never did set in. I have seen this same phenomenom occur with women who might have been heavy as teens who lost weight in their 20s, or girls who had bad acne or braces etc in their youth whose esteem was very low. Often when they 'blossom' the person who was very NOT superficial and shallow still remains despite the outward changes.

As for men who chase the b***h or women who chase the bad boy again it all goes back to self esteem. Confident people do NOT chase b*****s or bad boys. They know they deserve better. The men and women who don't feel they deserve more will often fall for people who treat them like crap because they think that is all they can get. The worse they are treated the more 'love sick' they think they are. I'd suggest instead of envying the b***h and bad boys for getting more hits i would instead be glad as hell i avoided the arms of such people with low self esteem like that as they could very well make for a dysfunctional partner.