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07 Apr 2009, 6:26 pm

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I'm definitely a pessimist and was wondering where other Aspies stand. It's really irritating, but no matter what I've tried, I haven't been able to work around it. I'll be talking with someone about a problem I'm facing and they'll make suggestions. Almost before they're done making the suggestion, I can tell them all the problems with it and can't convince myself the solution is worth it if it requires overcoming those problems. With ideas, people, anything, the first thing I notice are its flaws.
Refer to yourself as "cautious and critical," and adopt a smug, superior attitude about it. It's very satisfying. Trust me.

I'm a hopeless optimist. This is partially due to going through severe depressive episodes in my past. Believe me, after you've died and come back to life a few times, it's natural to feel a bit immortal.



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07 Apr 2009, 6:29 pm

A pessimist can never be disappointed. An optimist is almost always disappointed. If one believes things will turn out badly then things can hardly ever turn out worse than expected.

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07 Apr 2009, 7:05 pm

most definately a pessimist.



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07 Apr 2009, 7:13 pm

ruveyn wrote:
A pessimist can never be disappointed. An optimist is almost always disappointed. If one believes things will turn out badly then things can hardly ever turn out worse than expected.

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How can an optimist be disappointed?

This optimist hasn't been disappointed in.... :scratch: - a long time. Trying to remember....

Oh yeah - about a month ago we left a day late on a vacation. I was so pissed off I didn't automatically go to the silver-lining. That is the rare exception.


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07 Apr 2009, 8:41 pm

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A pessimist can never be disappointed.
You mean a pessimist remains disappointed.

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An optimist is almost always disappointed.
Nope! You miss the point of optimism. I've been around the block a few times, and optimism has nothing to do with expected outcomes. Optimism is the belief that, so long as there's a breath in you, there's a way forward, eventually. Optimism is a patient, stubborn sort of creature, and she won't take 'no' for an answer.



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08 Apr 2009, 4:01 am

I believe that you can be an optimist or a pessimist in different sectors of life. When it comes to people I am sort of an optimist, I like to believe that people are mostly good and believe the best of them.

But when it comes to life and the physical world I am a pessimist. I feel unable to control a lot of what is going on around me on the physical plane and I am very sensitive in a sensory and physical way so I am easily overwhelmed and then I get irritable and angry. So when I was working I would spent 90% of my day feeling stressed and wired. And I guess it makes me down on life itself because I feel angry at a life I cant cope with.



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08 Apr 2009, 5:53 am

I consider myself a realist....or someone who likes to hope for the best, but knows better than to blindly expect it. :lol:

Most people see me as a pessimist.



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08 Apr 2009, 11:14 am

Pessimist, always looking on the bad side of things.


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08 Apr 2009, 11:38 am

Everything is Doomed!

So let's have some fun!



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09 Apr 2009, 12:21 am

Q: "Are you an optimist or a pessimist?"

A: "Yes"



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09 Apr 2009, 1:09 am

It's not like I choose to be this way. My family tells me not to be so negative and I just can't help it. If something's a bad idea it's a bad idea and thinking about it positively won't change that in any way.



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09 Apr 2009, 2:10 am

Pessimist here.

All I ever heard from people was negative (about me) so maybe I took it as normal to be 'negative' about things.



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09 Apr 2009, 9:57 am

ThisisjusthowItalk wrote:
ruveyn wrote:
A pessimist can never be disappointed.
You mean a pessimist remains disappointed.

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An optimist is almost always disappointed.
Nope! You miss the point of optimism. I've been around the block a few times, and optimism has nothing to do with expected outcomes. Optimism is the belief that, so long as there's a breath in you, there's a way forward, eventually. Optimism is a patient, stubborn sort of creature, and she won't take 'no' for an answer.


Optimism is also the ability to make something of a bad situation. To put it in its most corny, annoying saying - if life gives you lemons, make lemonade. (God! I hate that saying!) :x

Or better yet, to find the silver lining in the storm clouds. (I, literally, love to look at the silver-lining of clouds. I could stare at them and follow them around all day. To me, they are even cooler than rainbows)

Here's a good example. An optimist gets fired from her crappy, stressful marketing job and see's nothing but a clean start and a bright future. Three years later, as predicted, the present and future is way better then that shitty oppressive job. (True story.)


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09 Apr 2009, 10:01 am

Theodore Sturegeon's Lemma: 85 percent of everything is Sh*t.

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09 Apr 2009, 10:03 am

When life gives you s**t, make a s**t sandwich.


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