An Aspie's Friend....

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Just curious..what is an Aspie looking for in a friend?

Someone who will accept me for who I am.

Someone who will accept that sometimes I just want to be left alone.

Someone who won't judge me when I do bad things. (But that one's just me, nothing to do with AS.)

Companionship, occasions to laugh, to talk, validation as a person...

Someone who understands my need for space...and um....someone who is creative, but non competitive and willing to collaborate on stuff...as my best way of interract is though working on stuff.

Someone who admires certain things about me.
A cool relaxed kind of person, not worried about the social ritual of gifts, small talk and popular traditions.
To share one or many hobbies.
Have a curious personality.
Have a good sense of humour.
Be more intelligent/creative than the regular person.
Brutally honest.
Someone that has a trait I admire and imitating it would help me.

I agree you at 100 percent. Aspie need to be accepted and included

Someone who's honest. I don't care about white lies, I'd rather know their "truth".

Someone who means what they say.

Hopefully have at least 1 hobby/interest in common with them.

All the above things and...

Someone who lets me talk about films 24/7 and doesn't try to shut me up by saying 'you talk about them allllll the time'

But I know that probably won't happen. My friends say that frequently but I guess they still have a point and they're all I want in friends apart from that anyway. They give me space, don't laugh or judge me when I go into panic mode etc... it took me a long time to find them and I wouldn't swap them for the world

I find that I, too, look for that in a friend.

But in the past, so called 'friends' have taken advantage of that.
Once you are my friend, I will do almost anything for you. I am completely attached to you.
But if you do not respect me back, love me for who I am, and let me have my space, then you have injured me terribly and the relationship is tainted.

I am also somewhat too forgiving and naive. However I am trying to overcome this.

Thats me in a nutshell. lol

Absolutely. Finding these two in people has been a big, long-term problem for me despite my attempts to integrate into such rituals.

I almost forgot: someone who doesn't get annoyed when I talk about my interests all the time.

Someone who's not an alphamale. My male friends have always lacked this quality more than most guys.

Me too. For most people. When a girl told me I should get another sister who's not disabled (my sister is physically and mentally disabled with epilepsy and brain damage) when i said how tough it had been, I didn't let her forget it and still haven't 100% forgiven.
I often struggle to forgive my dad cos some things he does hurt deep, like WALK OUT for 9 hours.

However I usually let things breeze past me and don't hold grudges. Except on technical things like misbehaving computers or blu-ray players that WON'T PLAY ANYTHING. If this is good or bad I don't know.