Do you blame your AS for not having a career?

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29 May 2009, 6:04 am

There are "job coaches" that will do a mock interview and critique how you handle yourself, but I'm not sure if there are any that do this for free or next to no cost. A good friend who is honest with you could probably tell you what you are doing wrong because they know how you project yourself normally.



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29 May 2009, 9:12 am

^ I've done all the 'job-prep' I can find. Career Services (offered through my school), professionals I know, friends, the works.

But I can't ever really be sure.



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29 May 2009, 11:55 pm

I don't deny my AS plays a part in it, but since it's part of my personality it would be more accurate to blame my lack of motivation to be actively part of this society and my distate of the state of our world.



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02 Jun 2009, 2:47 am

I think that in a way, my AS has gotten in the way of getting interviews, but I have had some temporary jobs that ended as soon as the contract was over, or the company I was temping at finished the project ahead of schedule. The other reason why I'm not working right now is that the economy still sucks, and it's now been a year since I was laid off from my last job.


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02 Jun 2009, 4:47 am

I spent twenty or more years doing contract work, software startups, more contract work, and so on. Then I stuck around for a while - managed three years. Changed companies, managed four years and an MBA before I was redundant.

That was the year I turned fifty, and sat around applying for jobs for four months before finally landing a three week contract. That was seven years ago. I've gotten through the aspergers diagnosis and getting used to it phases, and of course I still deliver results.

Last time I had to apply for the job I was doing, I was asked in the interview about my response to the must communicate well essential criterion - I spoke of aspergers then. Today I had to submit an application for the job I was doing, and talked of aspergers in the application. My feeling is that this organisation has been selecting for aspie techs for a long time, because the percentage of odd individuals approaches 50 in the areas around me. There's a significant OHS&W liability in that, I'm starting to suspect. Problem is, none of them know about it. Except me, and I can't keep my mouth shut.



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02 Jun 2009, 8:38 am

Zoonic wrote:
I do it frequently, when it suits me. Once I was interrogated by the police for verbally harassing a woman as well as having been spreading lies about many people through my blog, I blamed AS and they dropped the case.

When it comes to not being able to handle school and being too lazy and narcissistic to get myself a normal job, I also blame AS. It feels good to blame AS even though it's only a half truth that my problems are all because of it.

In general, I find AS extremely convenient. Sometimes I even use it to get rid of people I don't want to talk to, "oh btw, I have AS" is all it takes to get people to distance themselves.

Be honest now please, I know quite a few aspies blame their resentment and aggressive behaviour towards society on AS and try to escape responsibility.


Don't use AS as a crutch!! !! That's self-disabling. BTW I see you're from Phoenix too! *Hi five*



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02 Jun 2009, 8:42 am

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That would be a big YES!!

One of the symptoms of AS is an inability to hold down a steady job and in thirty three years I had eighteen jobs. On average that's a new job every two years or so. Part of the problem is that I sometimes have the social skills of a baboon so I ended up alienating my bosses and the people I worked with, and I did this time and time again.

Eventually I found a solution in temporay and contract work. Once I found myself getting bored or my work colleagues stopped talking to me I just asked the agency for a new contract and I moved on.

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Unfortunately I seem to have the same problem....Although I work at a Dairy Queen right now, so my coworkers aren't too smart to begin with....anyway what is contract work? It sounds interesting, and it also seems to give one the ability to start fresh at your own discretion.



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06 Jun 2009, 9:59 pm

My AS plays a part in me not being able to get a job. Also, there's the social anxiety and a lack of experience. But really if I didn't have AS then my mum would have let me get a job at 14, instead of saying 'I just don't know how you'll cope with it.' She still says the same thing to me. I tell her about a job I want to apply for and she'll say I won't be any good at it.
A lot of the reasons why people think I won't be good at a job does come down to my AS symptoms.

And I'm not using it as a crutch. I have to apply for a few jobs before June 15, which is only a week away. If I don't I'll have to tell my case worker why I haven't held my end of the agreement which I signed for.


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07 Jun 2009, 1:34 am

ViperaAspis wrote:
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it's not appropriate...


Name calling is not appropriate. Whether it is 'liar', 'sociopath', or 'flunky'. I'm sorry you do not understand this.

Apparently there is some kind of history between you two that goes beyond the few posts I've read from this individual and from you. Judged purely on this post (which is all I can see right here), you are attacking this person on a personal level for what appears to be no reason. If they were attacking you and calling you a few choice and well-deserved names, I would be defending your right to enjoy a forum free from this sort of despicable behavior as well.

You see, this isn't about the OP's post or your right to judge his AS dx anymore. This is about everyone's right to enjoy a forum free of personal attacks and cruel insinuations.
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07 Jun 2009, 1:46 am

Now now, don't start this up again.


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07 Jun 2009, 2:01 am

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