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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adult Aspergers and joking as coping mechanism |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2016, 4:42 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,058
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| I don't really do that, and by nature, since I'm often serious, it would be hard for me to turn something into a joke. |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: BS platitudes and statements |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2016, 4:40 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 59
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| Yeah passive aggressive people suck, and I wish there is a good way to deal with them other than just ignoring or walking away. |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: BS platitudes and statements |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2016, 4:30 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 59
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| I'm sure some of you have heard this statement said before, "If you want it bad enough, you will get it." or variations of that statement or similar ones before? By that logic, then all the people who didn't make it to the NFL's, or make it as an actor, musician, singer, etc. must not want... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: When is it time to give up or move on? |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2016, 7:00 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 774
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| Wow that is actually a good point anagram! :) I never considered that, sometimes if people have satisfaction from attempting an activity even with no fruit bore or results, but if they enjoy it enough, then they would keep going. So far, in most of my life, if something doesn't bear fruit, then it w... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: When is it time to give up or move on? |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2016, 12:10 am
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Replies: 9
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| Thanks for answering my question MjrMajorMajor. :) I like your answer to the first scenario, like it seems that a major/above the top goal may be out of reach, but for the fun of the sport, the person still continues playing for his/her personal enjoyment. And yes, I know those examples still have s... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: When is it time to give up or move on? |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2016, 4:34 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 774
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| TheZach, Ok, I don't know what the hell you are trying to tell me, but it looks like you are attacking me for simply asking a question. Not only did you not really address my topic or question, but rather went on to an attack, gas-lighting me, criticizing my English speaking skills and grammar, and ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: When is it time to give up or move on? |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2016, 10:24 am
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Replies: 9
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| I often get a lot of statements that people say never give up, never quit, or keep going. However, realistically, there must be a limit, or a certain time where it is truly time to give up an activity or pursuing something if it doesn't work out. This limit is what prevents wasting additional time a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: "Call me" "Let's get together" without meaning it??? |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 20 Jul 2016, 3:09 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,421
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| I've had that in the past, and I think @Birdinflight summarized it pretty well. Personally, I just stopped having high expectations (could be part of the reason why I became pessimistic in my early adulthood years and to an extent in present day), and just thought meh, another stupid fake just sayin... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why are other people getting away with things I wouldn't? |
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Posted: 20 Jul 2016, 3:00 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 2,579
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| I have the same issue as well, and I get a lot of the cliche BS like "life isn't fair" or crap along those lines... I totally relate with you. I guess it has to deal with some double standard along with some sort of audacity, like "haha I can get away with it, but you can't just becau... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I See No Point to Birthday Celebrations |
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Posted: 20 Jul 2016, 12:23 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 4,741
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| I do celebrate my birthdays, but usually on my own terms, with others it would be going out to a restaurant to eat, hanging out with each other at my place or their place, or receiving gifts. I could see that when someone gets much older (like over 40-50) there is just nothing really special, since ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: People not believing you when you are telling the truth |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2016, 11:02 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 2,059
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| I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you in the past, I had similar situations as well, and while I partially blame myself for it, it is due to the fact that sometimes I lie to avoid getting punishment, especially during my elementary and middle school years. However, the difference is that peop... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: My situation with making friends is very frustrating |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2016, 10:45 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 737
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| I have problems with making friends as well, let alone keeping them. As far as being shy, I would say I used to have a problem with that when I was younger, but nowadays it was more of trying to open up to others, and unless I know the person very well, that was unlikely, even for my closest friends... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What exactly IS a "friend?" |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2016, 8:53 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 976
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| I've asked myself the same question, and was going to make a topic on it, though I have reached my own conclusions. While I don't know how applicable it might be for you, I'll just say that it is not a physical science and everyone's criteria will be different. Anyways, so here is my response to you... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Have you ever dated or been in relationship before? |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2016, 11:09 am
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Replies: 64
Views: 7,513
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| Homer_Bob, I'm happy that you are content, and currently, I'm mostly content except that I'm still in school currently, (graduate school) and uncertain of my future, though that is a different issue than being a relationship itself. I do feel that if I am in a relationship, part of the problems that... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: People who say "Don't worry about what others think" |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2016, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 776
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@lidsmichelle
I agree, and good observation indeed.
@PhosphorusDecree
I think I'm still struggling to find that balance, between the times where it is important to care and how much to care about it, and when it shouldn't matter at all. |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: I hate lipservice, empty platitudes, cliche responses! |
| AspieGuy4210 |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2016, 4:23 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 125
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| @Carmelpopcorn Hmm that's true. I guess it is also due to social convention, though I don't agree with it lol. @Tim_Tex I think there is some truth to that, but yes there are times where time alone doesn't really heal or get through some of the more continuous, permanent issues. --------- Also, for ... |
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