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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How to be less Socially Awkward with ASD? |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 1:19 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,384
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| I've been trying to improve my social capital (e.g. likability, executive functioning, etc.) by writing down social errors I'm prone to making and figuring out ways to be in control of various situations to make less social errors. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you ever just want accquitances more than best friends |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2017, 7:04 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 768
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| Hey there, I wanted to know if there are people out there that can kinda relate to wanting acquaintances more than an actual friendship. My reasons for preferring acquaintances are as follows: - To avoid social errors when getting too close with someone and being required to play counselor when peop... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Thinking about cutting ties |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 13 Sep 2017, 7:00 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 644
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| Personally, if you feel offended by those actions above (sorry didnt read it all due to overwhelmingness) and you have tried to give like 2 - 3 chances, after that just drop it good. Also, before making that choice though, utilize opportunity cost thinking to determine whether or not you can live wi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I prefer having entrepreneurial/business friends. |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2017, 2:55 am
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Replies: 1
Views: 422
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| All I ever hyperfocus on is my music (DJing and producing) and ways to turn all this into a business leading into a successful career. In the interest of getting to know myself and always figuring out my Aspergers, lately I've been feeling like business makes sense to me in terms of enforcing good b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I apply business skills to relationships and dating |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2017, 5:40 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,202
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| You cannot apply a business model to relationships, or even close friendships. It might work for superficial "friendships", but that is all. A relationship is not a business transaction. You could apply the model to dating, but then you will fail as soon as it gets more serious because gi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I apply business skills to relationships and dating |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2017, 5:33 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,202
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| You don't...If all people are to you is a business investment, then they aren't really going to want to have close relationships with you. Okay, so how do I solve this problem of being able to read girls while interacting with them and even trying to make it past the 6-month mark of dating. What I ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I apply business skills to relationships and dating |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2017, 10:40 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,202
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| Rapport Respect Understanding Forgiveness Your value point.[/quote] What do you mean by your point value? I do know that all relationships (friendships and girlfriends) often require a "minimum cost requirement" where I'm expected to at least chip into something to maintain the relationshi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I apply business skills to relationships and dating |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2017, 10:25 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,202
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| Lately, I've been purging all my friends that are non-music related this year and have been focusing hard on making music, DJing, and finding ways to get a 9 - 5 job in music because of Aspergers. I've been feeling a bit lonely and want a girlfriend just to have her pay attention to me as well as be... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I make more producer and DJ friends? |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2017, 11:33 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 383
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| Hello there. It seems like I am doing it for the love of the music. Every time I mention the above things they take me as superficial or get offensive. My intention it to have associates I can also be friends with (some part of the time) since its f*****g difficult to maintain friends. But I'm start... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I make more producer and DJ friends? |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2017, 9:41 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 383
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| Lately, I've been purging a lot of my friends out my life due to the saying "you are the average of 5 friends in your social circle" and have been purging a couple of friends that I have not seen for more than a year as well as whether or not they are beneficial/helpful for my business. Pe... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it wrong to only want friends for business purposes only |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 25 May 2017, 3:43 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 442
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| You know lately I've been applying business and economics thinking to relationships these days. Some of the other friends that I recently got rid of was because I hadn't talk to them for a year and I felt distant around them. Plus on top of that flakey. I tried to tell them that I'm changing my habi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it wrong to only want friends for business purposes only |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 24 May 2017, 9:48 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 442
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| Recently I let my sister and bro-in-law know that I cut some friends out of my life due to "business purposes". Business purposes being that they are not beneficial to my rising music ventures as well as other things I consider liabilities (e.g. sexual harassment, constantly flaking on me,... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What should I do in the meantime as I am waiting on DOR |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 24 May 2017, 9:45 pm
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Replies: 0
Views: 249
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| After getting fired from a job that I got in February, I haven't been looking for a job much and I was doing uber and lyft until lyft fired me for asking passengers for tips and I got deactivated with uber for low ratings. I currently work with folks that have developmental problems and am already h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girl I recently had sex with is not returning my texts |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2017, 3:44 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 1,948
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| All I know is wait 3 months/5 dates before having sex. That's NT rules. Doesn't apply for NDs. But I'm not getting anywhere with all these dates I'm going on. Listen, I think it's best that I wait and even though I want sex right away, the "relationship" thing to do is to make a girl wait... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girl I recently had sex with is not returning my texts |
| HenryGramer |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2017, 3:21 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 1,948
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| I want sex right away, the "relationship" thing to do is to make a girl wait 5 dates and then have sex. In the meantime, I'll just masturbate to her while I am getting to know her. I laughed out loud to this comment. You're a savage man. me too :lmao: but this kind of unapologetic honesty... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girl I recently had sex with is not returning my texts |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2017, 1:25 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 1,948
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| You want a relationship so you saw what you wanted to a little bit by interpreting her signs of interest in a casual relationship as being signs of interest in a serious relationship. With limited experience of either kind of relationship, you interpret the sex as being the ultimate indicator that ... |
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