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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone here hate themeselves? |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2017, 9:50 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,273
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| IMO, help that allows one to become more independent is the greatest help of all. okay. fine. in the book "toxic charity", it claims that when helping someone makes someone more dependent, it is worse than not intervening altogether. but of course, what is the "greatest help" is ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: My life is pointless |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2017, 9:34 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 938
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| Most of time I'm just sitting at home alone reading stuff at internet I don't even care about. I have some ideas but I just feel too tired all time to do anything, to think anything. All seems so pointless but I have no energy to change. likewise almost all the precious lil "friends" i had... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How do you handle compliments? |
| shortfatbalduglyman |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2017, 9:29 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 506
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| When someone randomly compliments me, I'm not sure if just should thank them or compliment them back. Either way, it ends up really awkward... if you compliment them back, it's like you did not mean it. but you were just returning the favor. lip service transaction. likewise, unless someone does it ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: obsessions |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2017, 9:14 pm
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Replies: 3
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| lately, i have been extremely obsessed with when i went through Gender Therapy in 2004. precious lil "people" gave me plenty of social rejection and a wide variety of it. with the exception of LGBT people, only several agreed to call me "he" instead of "she." some of th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone here hate themeselves? |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2017, 9:39 pm
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Replies: 21
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| I sure do. I fricking hate myself so I would rather help my friend in wheelchair than help myself because I feel like a bad person. I have no self esteem. yes, i hate myself. helping someone is good. helping yourself is also good. on the other hand, sometimes it is not clear what is "helping&qu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Talking drains me |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2017, 11:09 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,151
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| Background on myself, I was nonverbal as a child and had not started speaking until age 9. I remember what people told me, but I never was able to respond, I was screaming in my head what I wanted, but was distressed nobody heard me and wild usually meltdown most days. As childhood passed, I still s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I fail everything im not good at anything |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2017, 10:58 pm
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Replies: 1
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| i dont want to help and i dont want to anything anymore i hate aspergers and OCD and everything about self and others i dont know what going on me i cant even play game because i have bad hand eye coordination i FAILLLLLLL i hate this yeah sometimes i feel that way too. and usually nowadays i do not... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: obsessions |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2017, 10:45 pm
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Replies: 3
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| past obsessions: practicing writing left and right handed weight lifting/walking/jogging/swimming/biking/martial arts army/navy/marines/coast guard/air force college major/careers chinese heritage rape/physical violence autism (ironic) fat/carbohydrates/eating habits/drinking water/percent body fat ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do I *need* friends? |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2017, 9:36 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 1,523
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| ok, i am 34 years old. in elementary school, it was like everyone got along. in junior high school, plenty of precious little "people" bullied me. and likewise, i did not (seem to) fit in. social outcast. pariah. wished for friends. in high school, no friends. a couple students i hung out ... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: What is your body fat percentage? |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2017, 9:21 pm
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Replies: 15
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| the nutritionist refused to lemmie use her body fat analysis scale. so i bought my own. through the scale, and calipers, my body fat measured around 21%. however, i am trans. so do not know to put it on "male" on "female". so tried both. likewise i am also chinese. so whatever th... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: The shame of never having worked |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2017, 9:12 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 522
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| yeah, likewise. in my precious little "life", i worked as a cashier, at a fast food restaurant, communications contractor, actor, recordkeeping assistant, accounting intern, real estate intern. all of them were minimum wage or barely above it or volunteer. none of them required the Bachelo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eating habits |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2017, 11:13 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,571
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| This is probably a very silly post.. but anyways... Does anyone else eat in a weird way? And do people comment on how you eat? I tend to pick at and examine what im eating and have done it since I was young. Ex. I like to eat corn on the cob by eating one piece of corn at a time, when i have foods t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I feel like nobody wants me |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2017, 9:11 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 784
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| I feel like many people hate me. I mean i'm unwanted person in this planet. Does this happen to you? I am always the passivest and less talking guy among my peers. I feel useless and unwanted. yes, many precious little "people" hate me too. just because you "feel" like nobody wan... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do i look like a little kid? |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2017, 9:05 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,339
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| you look the same age you claim to be, to me. different people look at the same thing and see different things. in different situations, you look different. plenty of strangers have expressed surprise and disbelief that i am 34. they expected i was younger. like 16. asians and transsexuals tend to l... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: AS and Computers |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2017, 9:03 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 957
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| Anyone else think that the stereotype of all Aspies loving computers is overblown. many I'm sure end up in IT because it often doesn't require top notch motor skills, for example, programming? Sure some maybe hyperfocused on it but I'm sure others would love to be an athlete, military etc. a disprop... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: do you rarely leave the house |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2017, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 70
Views: 6,227
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| I hardly do. what about everyone else ?, I've pretty much come to dislike neurotypicals.. and.. Sadly just people in general. every day, i obsessive compulsively leave the house for 10 or more hours. yes, i dislike neurotypicals. (fine). but, in their defense, i do not know many autistics. so maybe ... |
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