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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Programmers? Is this delusional? |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2010, 4:04 am
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| IMHO, you're probably best off trying to learn one of: Python, Javascript, or Java. Python is easy to learn, though I'm not sure how readily useful the runtimes are on Windows. (It's part of the standard install on OS X & Linux). Doing HTML+Javascript is a great combo, you can then expand into P... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: "Hard to say no to your kids". Why? |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2008, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Saying no to a young child results in: * tantrums * violence * failure to eat / drink / toilet * tears and sad faces (you do feel guilty for saying 'no'... well, sometimes) * vomit (I'm not kidding - excessive screaming has literally made my kids sick, and I know others that can do it 'on command').... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Marriage Issues |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2008, 6:28 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,110
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gbollard wrote: Counseling is usually useless. It's a stop-gap which enables you to hold on but will never address the real problems.
I will explicitly point out the implicit "but if you need a stop-gap, counselling can be useful" in this sentence... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girlfriends And Eye Contact |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2008, 10:58 pm
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Replies: 10
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| [nb., undx'd] My wife was the one who pointed out my bad eye contact. It's probably a little better with her than most others, but not alot. I do make a point of forcing myself to make eye contact with her, especially when I'm saying nice things (I love you etc.) :). I make natural eye contact with ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why did you never shut up (whether about your obsession or j |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2008, 10:19 pm
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Replies: 6
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| These days, I just feel an almost irresistable need to "get it out"; especially when I'm part-way though, I just need to finish what I started. (It's particularly noticable when I've just told someone about something I've done at work, and am explaining the fifty thousand things that might cause pro... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism as an intentional eugenics experiment (HEAR ME OUT!) |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2008, 6:58 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,652
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| Wouldn't millions of aspies be hard to control and manage? Lowered need to conform to the group's desired dynamics, etc. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: NTs' communication - I'm flummoxed! |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2008, 11:17 pm
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Replies: 11
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The "I'm OK" stuff there is more of a "I'm coping, thanks for asking" than anything.
(and I like your choice in TV shows  ) |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Those ignorant of their AS--and doing fine |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2008, 7:48 pm
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Replies: 48
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| I've been pondering on a similar train of thought recently. My current belief is that it's entirely possible to have Asperger's Syndrome (ie. the underlying wiring differences), but not necessarily be affected enough to warrant a diagnosis of Asperger's Disorder. ie., the Syndrome is like a type of ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I never notice when my friends get haircuts... |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2008, 7:27 pm
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Replies: 15
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Yeah I never notice stuff, and I get comments that I never notice stuff 
I really don't know how others do it - on the odd occasion when I do notice something, I'm afraid of saying anything in case I'm wrong and nothing has changed (which has happened in the past). |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My Mom Dumped Me |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2007, 6:34 am
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Replies: 18
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Wow, that sucks big-time  . I hate the politics constantly swirling around much of my family, but this is far worse.
Good luck for whatever you choose for the future, Siuan. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Back handed school compliance |
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Posted: 19 Dec 2007, 10:36 pm
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Replies: 4
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| I have a lot of friends and family working at schools (I'm ex-DECS myself); believe me when I say that making up the timetables is a huge and disaster-prone issue, especially when parents make late requests of what other children can/can't be placed together. It's possible that she's just having a s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do Aspies and NTs have different ideas of what is rude? |
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Posted: 16 Dec 2007, 10:44 pm
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Replies: 10
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For sure.
I seem to be at opposite ends sometimes - I think that interrupting someone doing something by themselves (eg. listening to music on headphones) is rude, but others think that isolating yourself (eg. by listening to music on headphones ) is rude instead. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: toddler won't stay in bed |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2007, 11:16 pm
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Replies: 25
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| We had this problem with our (very NT) eldest daughter, though we had already moved her to a bed. For quite some time we just gave up and I sat in the room with her (and her younger sister) until they were both asleep. Eventually my wife and I decided that we'd had enough of loosing 30-90 minutes pe... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why can't I communicate sometimes? |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2007, 1:06 am
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Replies: 27
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| I'm just like this, and I hate it. It took me years to work out that I was even like that; I've always lived with someone else. Caller ID makes it easier. I think it's the stress and anxiety of not knowing what's going to happen, and thinking you'll do "the wrong thing" or annoy the other person. It... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is Asperger's often confused with a personality disorder? |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2007, 6:16 am
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Replies: 75
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| I believe Social Anxiety Disorder is a common misdiagnosis also? Though that's an anxiety disorder rather than a personality disorder, I suppose. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why don't you like eye contact? |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2007, 12:55 am
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Replies: 80
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| Yeah - I actually only found out this year I had bad eye contact, I always thought I had really good eye contact :( It's not really bad; I look at people at enough "key" moments that I can convey that I'm listening etc. etc., at least most of the time. I've been trying to improve my eye contact... I... |
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