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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: How do you engage with people? |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 3:04 pm
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| I interpret it as finding out more about them and what they need/want etc. I guess it comes down to what type of stakeholder they are. If they have a high interest in the outcomes of what you are doing and also high influence over them too, then you would want to engage with them regularily and alwa... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 2:59 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,115
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| fluffysaurus - the book is actually called The Hero With a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell. It discusses the theory of the journey of the archetypal hero found in world mythologies. It's abit 'involved' but I have found it one of the most inspiring reads of my life. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Will I have to become what I hate? |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 2:25 pm
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Replies: 249
Views: 5,245
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'I wouldn't rule out a woman in her 30's-50's if she took care of herself and was intelligent.'
There can be a huge difference both physically and mentally between 30s and 50s. If you see 30s as 'older' then you must still be very young. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Will I have to become what I hate? |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 2:23 pm
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| Let me just put it this way: If you become a "fake" for a relationship... the relationship isnt real either. Also, to be honest? If those ridiculous qualities you list are what would make someone fall for you? They're NOT someone you really want as a partner... because that's hideously sh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic traits due to nuture |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 2:20 pm
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Replies: 31
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| As far as I've read (which again is a pittance compared to AS), autism is a physical brain wiring, nurture will not give a child an autism spectrum disorder. "The girl in the window" was diagnosed with environmental Autism due to malnutrition, lack of stimulation and never being spoken to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic traits due to nuture |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 2:16 pm
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Replies: 31
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| Hello I don't know but I think it's more likely they will just both get frustrated, but there is a long thread on the parents section that was about being NT bought up by ASD parents so that might help you. I began to read first post and could see it was negative so did not continue so if you are a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic traits due to nuture |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 11:46 am
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| Thanks for all your replies. I'm not so much concerned that autistic parents will turn NT children autistic as such. I guess it is more about learned behaviour. A bird that cannot sing, cannot teach it's chicks how to sing either?! However i have some reassurance in your responses and I'll be sure t... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 8:44 am
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Replies: 20
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| I see your logic and in times gone by I'd get that. But in the modern world it doesn't ring so true, good social skills are expected more and more in every trade ad customer service becomes paramount. I've known people on the spectrum, in engineering roles, who have either experienced great discord... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 8:38 am
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| Mechanics apprenticeship would lead to a job where poor social skills would be no hindrance and probable self-employment. I think it's a job where it's appreciated that you just get on with it. A job with a sports club or as a personal trainer would take more social abilities as well as less contro... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 8:30 am
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Replies: 2,515
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| AS/NT relationship help... specific communication issue Hello all, first post, hope I am doing this right. I am (AS) in a committed relationship with an NT partner and we are having enormous communication problems (which we are working on). When I feel I am not being understood I impulsively turn u... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 8:19 am
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| I think it's the same for almost anyone, it's hard to "fake it" when your really not interested. When I do it then the talk becomes "blah blah blah". I tend to stick to generalities and keep things on the light side so it doesn't become boring. Hope that made sense. It is really... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic traits due to nuture |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 8:09 am
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Replies: 31
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| I'm currently pondering on the possible consequences of a parent with ASD raising a NT child. Do you think it is possible, or have you even some experience yourself, that an NT individual can present ASD traits due to their nurture and upbringing by a parent with ASD? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: experimenting on myself |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2018, 1:06 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 1,186
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| I struggle with this a bit too, but the general advice for NTs who want to make friends really does apply to Aspies as well. We just have more difficulty employing the strategies, and thus have to push ourselves a bit more and jump further out of our comfort zones So, find groups/meet ups with comm... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: what are you listening to THIS VERY SECOND? |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2018, 10:01 am
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Replies: 63,747
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Traffic, and the family talking.
In terms of music (though not this VERY second) I'm revisiting Tupac and Jamiroquai collections. Plus London Grammer, Anderson Paak and some Chillhop.
I strongly recommend a group called The Milk, should be far more successful than they are |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
| Trojanofpeace |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2018, 9:56 am
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Replies: 20
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| I do worry about the future for both my sons. We are living in a very social world and I do feel the problems my sons experience with social interaction (either through autism or mental illness) will affect their life chances and increase their vulnerability. However, it is also important that they... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Help with son who won't engage |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2018, 8:34 am
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Replies: 20
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| Mechanics apprenticeship would lead to a job where poor social skills would be no hindrance and probable self-employment. I think it's a job where it's appreciated that you just get on with it. A job with a sports club or as a personal trainer would take more social abilities as well as less contro... |
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