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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 09 Jan 2018, 1:16 pm
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| Folks, I have taken what you have said to heart and tried to apply it to what you have said and to what I observe in Hal's behavior. I also have scanned what literature seems appropriate on line. It seems every time I do, there is some kind of "shape-shifting" going on about what autism is... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 09 Jan 2018, 9:29 am
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| I wrote a really long answer and captcha ate it all. I have a family and lots of new obligations coming up, I can't devote more time to this, particularly as my executive functioning sucks Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0mIFmRCaCs It's one of the best documentaries around. Among other... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2018, 2:14 pm
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| Okay, I can admit Hal may enjoy some trolling. My brother has this trait and I don't see it really colliding with ASD. No, you are not doing ABA unintentionally. Luckily. ABA is awful. I sometimes behaved randomly in social situations, some of the perceived manipulations could be random behaviors a... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parents Getting Angry Over Grades |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2018, 11:14 am
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Replies: 35
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| Aspie1: Great Topic! :) Parents get mad about grades for the same reasons anybody gets mad about anything: Pain, Fear, and/or Frustration. Many parents see their kids as little projections of themselves. (Might be just as well in order to reduce infanticide - only partially a joke...) So some typica... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Love Daughter but Hate the Anger She Has Often |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2018, 9:50 am
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Replies: 29
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| I don't think punishment and reward is the best for NT kids, either. But parents can only use the tools they have available. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2018, 6:32 am
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| I'm going with the assumption that the child is indeed autistic. I find it unlikely that he would have gotten an incorrect diagnosis at such a young age. The lining up of objects when in a confusing social setting supports this, as do the obvious social difficulties. His therapist sounds clueless. ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2018, 6:15 am
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| Let me relate another incident involving Hal. I am hoping you fine folks can at least see why I view him capable of manipulation and malevolence like most boys. I do not ask anyone to agree with me and welcome alternate interpretations. One interpretation that will mean little to me would be a short... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 2:51 pm
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| Sorry, no. I have known Hal, that I like very much, for about a year. My mother knew me all my life and she never got it. Just stop being so sure about it, that's all I'm asking for. I am sorry your mother didn't understand you. I know very well how that feels. How when family says they love you, b... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 2:11 pm
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| But then you ask a great question: "Does he have any special interests? Any particular fascinations?" Not anything obvious, but he is constantly trying to be clever, which usually turns out sounding foolish. That is something to work with. He is smart, but not wise. Like being smart is kn... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 2:07 pm
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| I can see that as a possibility, but don't think so in this case. I have decided he is just trying to feel clever (tricky) but doing it in the wrong way. I am going to pursue ways to provide him with positive opportunities to feel clever within the gang. See my next earliest post. :) Why do you fee... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 1:32 pm
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Replies: 81
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| But then you ask a great question: "Does he have any special interests? Any particular fascinations?" Not anything obvious, but he is constantly trying to be clever, which usually turns out sounding foolish. That is something to work with. He is smart, but not wise. Like being smart is kn... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 1:16 pm
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Replies: 81
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| Sorry, no. I have known Hal, that I like very much, for about a year. My mother knew me all my life and she never got it. Just stop being so sure about it, that's all I'm asking for. I am sorry your mother didn't understand you. I know very well how that feels. How when family says they love you, b... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 1:10 pm
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| Thanks ASDMommyASDKid, that is really kind, I will take you up on your offer! Just bear with me, I have overdosed on online time this week! TwoBlocked, I do understand you as genuinely coming from a place where you want to elevate your camp member's behaviour and look to hold him accountable and te... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 12:51 pm
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Replies: 81
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| I can see that as a possibility, but don't think so in this case. I have decided he is just trying to feel clever (tricky) but doing it in the wrong way. I am going to pursue ways to provide him with positive opportunities to feel clever within the gang. See my next earliest post. :) Why do you fee... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 12:49 pm
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Replies: 81
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| But then you ask a great question: "Does he have any special interests? Any particular fascinations?" Not anything obvious, but he is constantly trying to be clever, which usually turns out sounding foolish. That is something to work with. He is smart, but not wise. Like being smart is kn... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HFA in Boy's Club |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2018, 12:44 pm
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Replies: 81
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| But then you ask a great question: "Does he have any special interests? Any particular fascinations?" Not anything obvious, but he is constantly trying to be clever, which usually turns out sounding foolish. That is something to work with. He is smart, but not wise. Like being smart is kn... |
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