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Forum: The Haven Topic: Seriously Folks, lacking Empathy ? |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2019, 7:52 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 855
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| In simplest terms, sympathy is the extent to which you care, empathy is the extent to which you understand. For example, sympathy without empathy would be "I see that you are sad. I do not relate to your *reasons* for being sad, but I do understand the feeling sad, and I am responding to that.&... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Does anyone else forget they're a person? |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2019, 9:46 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 10,492
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| Does anyone here forget they're a person? To clarify, I don't think I'm a monkey, or think I'm a different person. I just forget that there is an I, that there's a line between me, and everything and everyone else. I forget that I am a thing. That I am a presence in a world that continues without m... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Is it ok to stim heavily as a mature adult? |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2019, 2:45 pm
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Replies: 67
Views: 20,312
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| IMO, yes, it is ok. I have autism and tourette. I can't even stay still in my sleep. I do a wide variety of really noticeable stims and tics, and nobody says anything. Leg bouncing, bobbing my head as if listening to music, twitching or twisting my head to the side or on an angle as if to pop my nec... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Was this ABA? |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2019, 10:07 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 322
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| Short answer: That was not ABA. That was parenting and bribery. You were not being trained like a dog. Your cooperation was bought with material compensation on a broad case-by-case basis. You were permitted the option to refuse the deal. Parents sometimes have to do things their kids don't like. Th... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: How much water is too much? |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2019, 9:56 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 396
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| "How much" and "too much" vary from person to person. The rule of thumb is, if you're thirsty, you should drink. If you're sweating, you should probably drink. For reference though, I work outside and drink about 4-6 liters of water a day on average. On occasion I've been known t... |
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Forum: Television, Film, and Video Topic: What were your favorite animated movies from your childhood? |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2019, 5:50 pm
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Replies: 75
Views: 8,644
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| The Phantom Tollbooth. Twice Upon a Time. Riki Tiki Tavi. Wizards. The Hobbit. Fire and Ice. Transformers: The Movie. Rock and Rule. Nausicaa. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: People never texting first |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2019, 12:56 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 320
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| Your mom is correct. Many people are much better at responding than initiating. It's fairly common. If you have an ability to approach people, an "unshyness" as you put it, don't be afraid to use it, and don't let others discourage you from being that way. Think of it this way. You just go... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Is it normal to look naturally older than your age? |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2019, 1:46 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 1,447
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| Everyone is different. I looked older than I was until I was about 20, then things reversed and I've looked younger than I am ever since. If I shave my beard off, I look even younger still. My niece looks her age, my sister looks older, my parents look younger. Everyone ages different, and it can be... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Martial arts and Aspergers |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2019, 1:30 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 1,084
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| Martial arts can be a fantastic skill to learn, for a variety of reasons. Age shouldn't dissuade you from getting back into the practice. I'm almost 40 and still practice most of my training. My parents are over 70 and they still practice as well. Over the years I've studied kenpo karate, tae kwon d... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: BBC VIDEO about autistic go-karters |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 19 Oct 2019, 1:37 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 368
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| I can totally relate. Cars, driving, and motorsports, are among my special interests and my superpowers. My involvement with cars has helped me in ways I can't even express. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Bad timing in everyday interaction |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2019, 4:18 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 566
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| Hi there. What you are experiencing sounds very familiar. When it comes to timing, I've found that if I anticipate things too much, I get a little jumpy on the trigger and say or do things too early, as you have done. I've had to train myself to sloowwwww myself down in general, and leave a small de... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Looking for a doctoral program focused on ASD in adults |
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Posted: 06 Oct 2019, 6:21 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 6,801
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| Thank you. That's kinda the whole point. Change has to start somewhere. Sure would be nice if you could answer some of my questions. Refusal to answer is in and of itself an answer, but I'm still going to ask, and give you the chance to speak for yourself, which is more respect than you've shown me ... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Looking for a doctoral program focused on ASD in adults |
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Posted: 06 Oct 2019, 3:07 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 6,801
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| Could have fooled me. Talking down to people and lecturing them about what *you* think *they* could learn sure feels like treating someone like they're stupid. If you didn't think I was stupid, then why did you spend so much effort reciting derisive commentary if you didn't think I was guilty of the... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Looking for a doctoral program focused on ASD in adults |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 06 Oct 2019, 3:50 am
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Replies: 17
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| That's great and all, and I can see how people doing that is frustrating, but, I definitely didn't see OP do that - all they said was "I've been all over the Internet looking. Does anyone know of a doctoral program focused on identifying and serving adults with ASD?" You say that "mos... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Looking for a doctoral program focused on ASD in adults |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2019, 6:08 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 6,801
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| Also correct. But I have neither suggested anything regarding "experimental psychology" nor any form of reduction or simplification of what is or isn't autism. Your irritation is understandable, but I feel it's also misplaced. I feel like you are referring to classical psychotherapy as rel... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Looking for a doctoral program focused on ASD in adults |
| uncommondenominator |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2019, 9:41 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 6,801
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| Yes it is. But from the perspective of diagnosing and assisting autistic adults, being versed in behavioral sciences seems to be the most practical. After all, diagnosing autism is literally looking for specific behaviors associated with autism, and being able to determine of it is in fact autism, o... |
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