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Forum: The Haven Topic: How come the outside world hates us? |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2023, 7:47 pm
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Replies: 36
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| I don't get why the outside world hates us so much. Seriously. For the most part, we don't tend to be jerks. Just different. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I'm an introvert. Tired of the outside world not getting me |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2023, 10:37 am
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Replies: 4
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| During my free time, I mainly enjoy my own company. The outside world is, as far as I can tell, extraverted, however (unfortunately). I've had more than one member of the outside world act annoyed when I don't want to go out and do stuff (or when I don't want to have them over for that matter). How... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Easy targets to make fun of? |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2023, 2:47 pm
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Replies: 33
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| I had no idea how disliked I was at prep school till the last meal of the last day there. Yes I'd been teased a bit, but nothing major as far as I was concerned . I took a swig of my tea not knowing someone had put tobacco in with the tea. The nausea was horrendous . It was a cruel thing to do. It'... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Easy targets to make fun of? |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2023, 2:45 pm
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Replies: 33
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| that sums up the problem of the world now doesn't it. Everyone is too busy online to support each other in real life :? I don't really know, it depends on the people. Maybe. For my personal case, I was alone long before I was online and before others were online. I certainly did my mid-late teenage... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2023, 2:37 pm
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Replies: 38
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| You have a right to your opinion (and there certainly are drawbacks to crawling into bed with a stranger you met online). That being said, I never would have had sex during college if it weren't for online hookups (since I'm too socially awkward/uninterested in parties to get a college hookup the w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I hate seeing young couples (rant) |
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Posted: 24 Jul 2023, 8:24 am
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Replies: 159
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| The other reason why women have trouble dating is the simple situation: Men fear that women will laugh at them. Women fear that men will kill them. It's the inequality of the relationship: going on a date with a man we don't know well could end in our deaths. Usually the worst thing that could happ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2023, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 38
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| I wouldn't be comfortable having sex with someone if I wasn't yet comfortable talking about sex with them. Absolutely this. Especially because I'm not a person who has ever been comfortable discussing sex in any detail with most people. Asking for explicit consent is one of those ideas that sounds ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2023, 12:54 pm
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Replies: 38
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| As a woman, I would consider it a turn-on if a guy I was dating wanted explicit consent. People should not be having sex with someone if there's any question that they could be underage. It's better to be a potential mood-killer than a statutory rapist. You're right; if there's any question the oth... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2023, 12:35 pm
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Replies: 38
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| People don't talk about sex before having it? That's news to me unless it's not consensual. How do they deal with issues like birth control and STIs? The general topic of sex probably comes up during most relationships, yeah. I couldn't really speak from experience; the sex I've had has largely hap... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2023, 12:32 pm
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Replies: 38
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| [I cant speak for others on the spectrum but I would have problems with initiating a sex conversation with someone I just met & started dating the typical offline NT way. To be fair, if this would be a difficult conversation then the couple shouldn't be having sex. I can imagine that subsequent... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2023, 12:08 pm
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Replies: 38
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| If a person pays any attention to their partner, there shouldn’t be a problem. I’ve been sexually assaulted. They didn’t misread my signals; they knew exactly what they were doing. Obviously, communication is very important. Boundaries should be talked about in advance so both people know what is o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2023, 12:01 pm
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Replies: 38
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| [ That being said, imagine the following scenario: A woman comes home with a guy. They start kissing. They gradually progress. Eventually they end up in bed (and have sex). Yet the words "I want sex" never came out of either of their mouths. They both relied on social cues to assume the o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2023, 11:59 am
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Replies: 38
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| People don't talk about sex before having it? That's news to me unless it's not consensual. How do they deal with issues like birth control and STIs? The general topic of sex probably comes up during most relationships, yeah. I couldn't really speak from experience; the sex I've had has largely hap... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Easy targets to make fun of? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2023, 7:09 pm
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Replies: 33
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| What do you mean by wide berth A "berth" can mean a space between adjacent piers into which you park sea going ships. So the expression "giving a wide berth" means "creating space". Usually you hear the expression when person A doesnt like person B and tells you that &... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2023, 7:02 pm
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Replies: 38
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| ^ I'm not sure. I reread the OP and it says they agree with the other person who said dating can lead to SA charges or be a risk because of misunderstandings regarding sex. I agree that communication as a whole, or picking up nuance can be difficult when dating, but the post is quite clearly about ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why it might *appear* we're uninterested in dating |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2023, 7:00 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 1,468
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| People don't talk about sex before having it? That's news to me unless it's not consensual. How do they deal with issues like birth control and STIs? I don't think that the OP is suggesting that people don't talk about sex beforehand. My understanding is that the OP is referring to the stages that ... |
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