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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How to communicate with Aspie BF about (and during) sex? |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2009, 2:48 pm
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| or you could reverse positions, if you top, you control everything, try cowboy position, you determine angle and where he goes, all he has to do is sit back and enjoy the ride. :lol: Been trying this but honestly I think he has to get one position (missionary, obviously) mastered before we try anot... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How to communicate with Aspie BF about (and during) sex? |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2009, 2:28 pm
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| he is probably percieving at as you are doing it wrong. i would encourage him by saying "I really need a man to do this and this for me" and when he does it right you say "wow that was great" and the next time you can start by "wow, remember how great it was when you did this and this?" Positive re... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How to communicate with Aspie BF about (and during) sex? |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2009, 11:45 am
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| Seems like he needs to learn to take advice. This is a common problem with guys, not just guys with AS, that they are often impossible to tell what you like to because they'll see it as an insult to what they are already doing. True ; ) There are two people in the bedroom and both should get to enj... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2009, 11:39 am
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| I'm glad you're still hanging in there, and making progress. :D I have to ask, how do you define an apology? Is it simply that it needs to contain the word "sorry" (or similar) or is it something more? The reason I ask is becouse I immediatly recogized it as an apology 1. He accknowledged that his ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2009, 8:53 pm
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| Your last post provides a great deal more clarity. I was under the impression I'd already posted about our changed status but after your replies I read back over the thread and saw I had not. I can only suggest to you patience on both parts. If both of you are not patient with the other, it won't w... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How to communicate with Aspie BF about (and during) sex? |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2009, 7:49 pm
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| I have TONS of questions about my Aspie BF and sex but for now I'll keep it to this: He's less experienced than me and his other sex partners were inexperienced too. He's blunt about what he likes and dislikes receiving from me however he is sensitive to me saying what I like. He will defend himself... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2009, 10:47 am
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| I am not certain on this - do you want to just maintain a strong friendship or are you hoping this will lead to dating>? Maybe you just want friendship and if so my post might be moot, but i think you are looking for more. I think I neglected to mention a few key points in my recent posts: we are r... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2009, 12:47 am
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| Each time I've pointed out what hurt me he hasn't repeated it. He's never liked that I bring up what I dislike because he seems to take "criticism" too personally but if there's a subject or topic that upsets me, he has so far respected the fact I don't like it and has never repeated an action or r... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2009, 4:53 pm
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| ToadofSteel wrote: If an aspie says or does something to hurt you, he may very well not realize it. When you're alone with him, tell him what he said and precisely how it hurt you. In most cases (generally if the behavior was something directed outwards; this doesn't generally apply to personal hab... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2009, 1:47 pm
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| I'm looking for suggestions as to how to handle conflict when it arises. I think to him they aren't conflicts like they are to you (and the NT mind in general). Can you elaborate a bit on this? I think he thinks you take things too seriously. I'm not saying you are, just saying that in his mind it ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is he trying to say? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2009, 12:24 pm
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| I introduced my boyfriend (undiagnosed) aspie to a girl friend. He was impressed by her technical intelligence. When he learned that she wanted to go bungee jumping, he promptly offered to accompany her. I have told him in the past I wanted to go bungee jumping, and he told me to go with my other f... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2009, 11:37 am
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| I don't think i'd go anywhere near dating someone I find to have narcisstic behavior and who has been rude to me. He apologized for those behaviours without any prodding from me. That's why I came back. I have to ask what you really are seeeking from us. Affirmation that he has AS and that he reall... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2009, 1:17 am
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| I've been gone for a while, but wanted to come back to update, and of course, see if I can seek more advice. We've been spending a lot of time together and we're enjoying it however problems have arisen over disagreements/ conflict. For example, one night when he was overtired he snapped at me, whic... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 10 Mar 2009, 12:21 pm
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| You certainly tried. And it is good you have gotten passed the resentment before taking this step. I am sorry it didn't work out, you put a lot of effort into it. Good luck in the future. Thanks CJ. I too am satisfied that I'm not acting or reacting from hurt or anger which at times was what I'd be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2009, 8:39 pm
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| I've decided that I've had it with AF though with no hard feelings, which is new. As anybody who has read this thread knows I've had a lot of resentment in the past. He couldn't tell me what he wanted before the weekend we finally had physical interaction, and nothing has changed. I haven't seen him... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT woman at her wit's end with her male Aspie friend |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2009, 5:32 am
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| That's going to be an issue for much of any relationship with an aspie. We don't bolt down the first base line and around the bases... we can stop short of first, run out into the stands, jump back down and run through the dugout, and slide into the pitcher's mound... In other words, don't expect t... |
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