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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone prefer stuffed animals/real animals to people? |
| random_confusion |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 8:38 pm
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Replies: 70
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| I have a ton of stuffed animals and I have one that my mom gave me when she was still alive. My mom died when I was less than a year old and I'm 26 now. I still kind of pretend the stuffed animal is like my sister or something since I'm an only child. I had a counselor tell me I'd never have a frien... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Liking Things Inappropriate for Your Age Group |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 8:22 pm
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Replies: 55
Views: 6,672
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| the interesting point is why do so many of us prefer childish or age inappropriate things when many of us have high IQs? For me I am pretty sure it's a certain emotional immaturity and also an attempt to "catch up" and understand the things my peers were interested in when I was little because at t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Having a sense of self when you were young |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 8:18 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 2,002
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| I had a sense of self pretty young too- I think partly because I'm an only child and was by myself a lot anyway, but also because I got singled out a lot by a teacher in elementary school who didn't like me. She kept on saying "That is not socially acceptable" or "YOU are doing (insert whatever wron... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating sites. Are they worth it? |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2011, 12:34 am
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Replies: 72
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| Lol, there's really no other way to say it - with my wiring I can't tell without meeting them. I can see pictures, think they look promising, conversations were great, and IRL it doesn't turn out like I thought. Alternately I've met people who had what I thought were horrible photographs but their ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can someone explain why people dont wanna hang out with me? |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2011, 6:17 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 2,761
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| Sometimes, with myself, I wonder if it's because I'm ''too boring''. I'm not really into celebrities, make-up, hairstyles, shopping, etc. I'm not really into anything really. Plus I don't really know much. So I've got nothing to say really. I can only do small talk, otherwise I'd just be going on a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating sites. Are they worth it? |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2011, 6:04 pm
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Replies: 72
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| Thanks, I'll try going on there more often :) The few times I have caught a message in time, the conversations just kind of fizzled out. . . I haven't met anyone on that site except people I already knew. It's kind of funny- I got a lot of messages on POF from people that I went to college or even h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating sites. Are they worth it? |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2011, 4:17 pm
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Replies: 72
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| What's funny is on POF I didn't really get quick dates- Most of the guys wanted to jump into relationships. Well I don't know why I'm saying "Most".. I had 2 relationships because of that site but they didn't last long- the last was 4 months and it was so terrible I had a nervous breakdown afterward... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can someone explain why people dont wanna hang out with me? |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2011, 3:28 pm
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Replies: 22
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| People have said that I think I'm too good to hang out with them too. It was a huge problem for me in high school and I lost some friends because of it, and some even decided to try to get "revenge" on me. But in that case I *did* want to hang out with them and wasn't allowed to. Now I have nicer, m... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating sites. Are they worth it? |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2011, 3:20 pm
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Replies: 72
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| I haven't had good experiences on POF. . .in fact that's where I met a lot of the guys with no self-confidence/rejection issues that I mentioned in another thread. I do get tons and tons of messages (not hundreds per day but yes, sometimes dozens), even when I haven't logged onto the site in weeks. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS girls (good looking to decent looking) automatically get |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2011, 10:53 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 5,539
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From my experience, it would be a pretty big percentage. 
I've given up on dating until I can find someone that has self-confidence and doesn't sit there complaining about all the other girls that rejected them, or exaggerating their flaws calling themselves ugly, fat, etc. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS girls (good looking to decent looking) automatically get |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2011, 10:31 pm
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Replies: 43
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| Oh... I thought the OP meant more aggressive in general. Well a lot of men are in that situation. There are plenty of NT men who are insecure or have a rejection complex- some due to situations like you described and some because they ask out everybody in sight (which of course would result in a hig... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS girls (good looking to decent looking) automatically get |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2011, 10:10 pm
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| Also, I'm not addressing whether or not it's easier for males or females to maintain a relationship. In that case, it's more likely than not a wash. I'm simply saying that since males are both more visually stimulated and more aggressive, it's more likely for an attractive AS female to end up in a ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS girls (good looking to decent looking) automatically get |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2011, 8:14 pm
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| diniesaur , females hated me too! I definitely never was "taken under anybody's wing." I might as well have had a huge flaming neon target on myself. Most girls think I'm a freak or they think I'm "mean"- have any of you read Queen Bees and Wannabees ? That book exposed so many of the unspoken "Mea... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS girls (good looking to decent looking) automatically get |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2011, 7:52 pm
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| Exactly, Verdandi- and one of my longest relationships was with an aspie guy. He definitely has a personality. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS girls (good looking to decent looking) automatically get |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2011, 7:50 pm
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| Truthfully, I think AS girls who are good looking to decent get used a lot more because they don't see it coming. If you've noticed, a lot of women on here have been physical abused when the general population of women hasn't. Amen to that! I've been too much of a sucker for sob stories- and defini... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can someone explain why people dont wanna hang out with me? |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2011, 7:48 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 2,761
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| If you find a job you like, you might be around people you have more in common with. I met a few cool people at my last job that I can have good conversations with and actually invited me to hang out with them. |
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