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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A Lesser Friendship |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2013, 10:09 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,660
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| I'm posting an update for anyone interested. I met with him a few days ago and we established mutually agreed upon boundaries. I told him he's welcome to link to my blog and YouTube channel again, he's welcome to comment on my posts, and we can correspond by email regarding autism stuff (as his son ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A Lesser Friendship |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2013, 10:18 am
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Replies: 13
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| Don't forget that your friend must also have complex and conflicting feelings; from his perspective you were the best of friends, soulmates until he met his wife. He had to reconcile with the fact she didn't approve of you, and that he had chosen her. Now his marriage is over he is free to see you,... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A Lesser Friendship |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2013, 10:29 pm
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| The day I decided to never again agree to have a friend who controls the closeness level in the friendship, I became free. Either we both choose or I leave. It's the leaving part that's so very difficult for me. If this was just another acquaintance, the decision would be easy. Having the feelings ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A Lesser Friendship |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2013, 7:43 am
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Replies: 13
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| I understand what you're saying, motley, but it does sound like that was a slightly different scenario, although your input is still helping me work through seeing this more clearly, so thank you. Let me clarify something that you've brought up. I won't take the blame for the problems our friendship... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A Lesser Friendship |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2013, 7:40 am
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MjrMajorMajor wrote: I'd also be worried that he might drop you again as soon as another relationship takes over.
I agree. Quite a lot, actually. His words are already leaning in that same kind of direction. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A Lesser Friendship |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2013, 10:02 pm
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Replies: 13
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| I had an amazingly wonderful friend a couple of years ago. We could easily talk for hours without end about anything and everything. I thought of him as my soulmate, and he didn't deny that the descriptor was pretty accurate. We had a falling out, because his wife couldn't accept me as a friend in h... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: He constantly makes stupid decisions... |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2013, 11:05 am
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Replies: 6
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| A friend of mine once lamented about someone in her life with whom she was losing patience. She wanted to see herself as a good friend, but at the same time this person was driving her up the wall. She wanted to say good riddance, but felt guilty about it. Ultimately, she decided pretty much the sam... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you have trouble inviting new people to things? |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2013, 9:55 am
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Replies: 10
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| I've practically given up on throwing "parties". I'll invite one or two friends to hang out for a specific purpose, and then it's much more manageable. Even if I want to have a fondue party (something I really love to do), instead of making it an actual party, I'll only invite a couple people and ju... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Need help understanding what I'm missing here |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2013, 11:16 am
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Replies: 9
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| How much of the sex were you directing? He mentions your control issue. Sounds like a weak guy. Some like to do a lot of relationship directing early on it makes them feel more secure. That's the weird thing about it, and why I'm so frustrated that he won't talk to me about it, because I sure as he... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Need help understanding what I'm missing here |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2013, 10:46 am
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Replies: 9
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| Ugh. This happened a month and a half ago, and I'm just now finally starting to feel angry over the whole mess. I wasn't able to feel that way before. I do finally feel like I've been toyed with to some extent, whether it was intentional or not, and that's what's making me feel this anger. I feel li... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Need help understanding what I'm missing here |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2013, 8:41 am
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Replies: 9
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| basically, in my opinion it looks like he tripped on his own personal set of morals. I agree with this the most, as I honestly don't think he was intentionally trying to hurt me, even though I have been very much hurt by this whole thing. If that's the case, then he sure is being hypocritical in hi... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Need help understanding what I'm missing here |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2013, 7:18 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I would post this to Dating, but there's adult subject matter, so posting here. Sorry it's so long, but I don't think I can shorten it anymore than I have. This guy "J" was very much interested in dating me. Back in the fall he planned a gathering at my house with my roommates so that he could run i... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What's your current obsession? |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2012, 12:47 pm
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Replies: 210
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MELODY-S wrote: Decorating and gardening. I just bought a house, so I am having fun obsessing over it 
I just put in an offer for a house. In the next couple of months, this is most definitely going to become my newest obsession as well. Sooooooo looking forward to it! |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Questions about friendships. |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2012, 12:33 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,220
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| I either remain detached and aloof, or I obsess making the object of my obsession uncomfortable. I have what I lovingly refer to as my GIR side (from the character from Invader ZIM). I find that when I GIR-out, or become manic towards a person, then I'm probably coming on too strong and they will n... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Post A Picture Of A Celebrity That You Find Attractive |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2012, 10:41 pm
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Replies: 129
Views: 3,506
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Brains are sexy.
Neuroscientists are sexy.
Asian neuroscientists with brains = HOT! |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Board games - Can NTs and Aspies play well together? |
| NicoleG |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2012, 11:54 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 4,868
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| Can anyone make any sense out of this for me? This really has nothing to do with board games, but him being demanding of your time. Acknowledge his feelings by using phrases like, "I understand that this frustrates you. Short of changing myself, is there another way that I can assist you regarding ... |
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