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Forum: The Haven Topic: Does anyone feel like their parents don't care or love them? |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2012, 6:17 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 21,993
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I firmly believe some of these parents are undiagnosed on the spectrum themselves. They are functional on their jobs, but a little too clueless for parenting.
My husband is on the specturm and loves his son very much... but sometimes, he is by all external measures a cold-hearted non-chalant father. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you ever encountered people? |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2012, 5:27 am
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Replies: 1
Views: 705
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| It is a hallmark problem of people on the spectrum. Warped social perception. We misread social cues from others, we respond a little off, they misread our intentions, and so on. Let go of the expectation that anyone is going to see things the way you do. Let go of the expectation that you will be a... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does your own family resent you? |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2012, 12:23 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 5,143
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| you are wise to refocus on the people in your life who are supportive. After some monthes of reading so many posts in this forum, as well as reflecting back on my own family, (I am not NT) I suspect that while some Aspies are blessed with supportive empathetic parents, many have undiagnosed parents... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you feel that people don't trust you? |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2012, 12:09 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 5,487
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| Both my aspie husband and son have social anxiety disorder. They really believe that almost everyone they meet does not like them. The only exceptions are people that literally say, "I like you" or "I want to be your friend" Or, persistant salespeople who use their scripted patter to build rapport. ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Worrying about losing friends and actually losing friends |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 03 May 2012, 1:20 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 3,038
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| I think these people never thought of themselves as your friend. They thought of you as a person that they knew. When you offended, or were annoying, you were not someone they wanted to spend their time with. :cry: It happens to aspies. We can be really offensive and have no clue why people are mad ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What's with me and "real jobs"? |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2012, 4:34 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 4,138
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| I don't want to live life and be un-happy. Unless you have a trust fund, someday whoever contributing to your support costs will stop or die. True unhappiness sets in when you are scared all the time about just paying for decent housing and basic stability. Having lots of money does not lead to hap... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What's with me and "real jobs"? |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2012, 1:59 am
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Replies: 20
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| In your imagination are the "cubicle dwellers" just like the seven dwarves, whistling while they work and happy to be there? Quite frankly most people working at such jobs are doing so because they have unavoidable obligations. It is something they are forced to do. If one is smart, then they try to... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do any Men here besides me like Blonde Haired Blue Eyed Whit |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2012, 4:11 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 5,546
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| eye colors but Blonde Women are beautiful . You like what you like. You find it attractive. It is not an intellectual process but a feeling, who knows the basis? It could be instinctive, it could be socialized. The media and advertising are among the most powerful applied social science on earth. Y... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Wanting to avoid/dump friends suddenly |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2012, 4:15 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 2,935
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| I understand your feelings. I have a friend that will contact me whenever she needs something edited in English. Sometime it has been on the last day, when I have had a sick child. She is always flattering and she does reciprocate by inviting me to dinner or something like that. Reciprocation is a b... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: That awkward moment when you realize you are different. |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2012, 9:20 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,139
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| More like that moment you realized WHY we are different. That there is a reason, and that there are some tools for coping. I always knew I was different, for a long, long time I thought if I could just learn to observe others better, or learn to say the right things, or stop fidgeting, I could final... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Eugenics: "Science" Gone Wrong |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2012, 7:56 am
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Replies: 113
Views: 9,226
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| Personally, I think that eugenics is basically a good idea when it comes to genetic diseases. I think that carriers of genetic diseases should feel a social pressure to adopt rather than having biological children. . So you are a eugenicist. My son was born with a life-threatening genetic disorder.... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Shoot first law: What could possibly go wrong? |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2012, 1:57 am
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Replies: 232
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| I have been too busy being the Aspie mother of a special needs child on most of these related issues. However, my mind naturally looks for patterns, and I fear the Trayon Martin story which offends my sense of the rule of law (and as horrific as I find it as a US citizen and mother) may actually be ... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: people sounding different online than in real life? |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2012, 4:32 pm
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Replies: 8
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| My husband is ADHD and can say a lot of impulsive rude things. Anyway he was working abroad, and we started corresponding more over chat and texts. He was so much nicer and more considerate. He had to think through what he was going to communicate before he wrote it, and I really liked "talking" wit... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: list of female AS traits |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2012, 3:54 pm
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Replies: 271
Views: 64,239
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| I don't think it would be possible for me to stay good friends with someone who expected me to contact them frequently/regularly or who got offended because I didn't. At least, it's never happened so far! I also have been blessed some special friends that value the friendship more than they value f... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Mother with Narcissistic Personality |
| Catarina |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2012, 3:35 pm
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Replies: 65
Views: 50,886
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| I think it is a little inaccurate to say my mum has a plan or sets out to hurt me, however. While at times she can be spiteful and vicious, I think mostly she is acting on impulse out of her own insecurities and is a deeply unhappy person herself. I also think that as much as she can hurt me, she r... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: list of female AS traits |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2012, 3:19 pm
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Replies: 271
Views: 64,239
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| So I won't have any friends in adulthood? That scares me... o.o I have friends, however; I must admit I had to work very hard to respond in relationships and I always tend to be comfortable with the oddballs in the group. :lol: I don't mind, since I am a bit odd myself. The hazard for me, and I thi... |
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