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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Needing advice on my next job |
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Posted: 22 May 2015, 5:24 am
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Replies: 6
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| I am sorry to say that there is almost no good way to make money from home unless you have specific technical skills such as website design. Various work from home schemes are 99% scams or pyramid sales in which you need to know a lot of people to sell your products to. Serious work from home oppor... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Needing advice on my next job |
| gigstalksguy |
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Posted: 21 May 2015, 8:42 am
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Replies: 6
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| Have you ever thought of trying to work for yourself and make money online? If you live in the UK (couldn't see from your profile) there is a great system for making money, on your own, online, no selling etc, that would suit you and anyone with asperger's. Pm me if your interested |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: London Meet Up : May 2015 |
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Posted: 20 May 2015, 9:46 am
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Replies: 43
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| Sorry to have missed this one. Been too busy to be on the forum much lately. I'll have to keep my eye's posted on the next London meetup |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do your friends tend to be older people? |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2015, 6:13 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,977
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| When I was in my teens and early twenties, I did the safe, comfortable thing which was to latch on to my parent's friends (usually other middle aged couples) instead of trying to form my own. As a kid, I never took any notice of what my peers would say, I didn't trust them, I only wanted to learn fr... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Made a big mistake on Facebook |
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Posted: 31 Aug 2014, 9:18 am
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Replies: 18
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| The more time I spent on social media the more I realise there is a big difference between how people bahave towards you on FB compared to in real life. Last week I was commenting in a long discussion thread in a local community group. I made a perfectly reasonable and very logical post, and I got s... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Jaded about friendship |
| gigstalksguy |
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Posted: 31 Aug 2014, 8:38 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,935
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| A friendship is always much more solid when there is a reason or purpose behind that friendship. If you're friend needs you either for a practical reason, or simply an emotional reason (what I mean by this is they relate to you or your experiences, feel comfortable with you...) then its more likely ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Starting an Aspergers meetup group |
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Posted: 31 Aug 2014, 8:23 am
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Replies: 7
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| Sounds like a great idea! Setting up a meet up group is always a great way to expand your social network and make more friends. One thing to be sure of is knowing there's enough people in or near your town or city to make it work. In this case its whether there's enough people with AS living locally... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Mechanics of forming friendships |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2014, 11:39 am
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Replies: 17
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| One thing I've discovered is that it is much easier to make friends, or go from casual acquaintance to a friend if you find something you have in common, that means you want to spend more time with them. It doesn't necessarily have to be a particular interest, it's often better if its more like a co... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: My parents criticize me about my social skills |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2014, 10:46 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,952
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| One of the main differences between extroverts and introverts is that extroverts get their energy from other people, and while introverts still have a need for friendship and company, they find that socialising takes up energy, and the need more time to digest things mentally, think through things o... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How to rejuvenate a friendship |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2014, 3:58 am
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Replies: 8
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| No I would not say the fact she didn't call you back means 'I don't give a crap about you anymore'? All it means is that calling you back was not a massive priority. Especially if she sounded happy to speak to you. She may have had another call, or got caught up in something else, or just got tired.... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Your own social rules? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2014, 7:30 am
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Replies: 8
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| I think some of your rules are a it strict! Particular Rule 3 about not talking to someone tell until they talk to you first. Just think if everyone followed that rule no-one would be talking to anyone! The best thing I can say is to try and get into a place where people want (or need) to talk to yo... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Holding a conversation |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2014, 5:48 am
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Replies: 6
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| Perhaps just speaking a little bit more slowly all the time might help....give you more time to think without having to pause, and will give a chilled and relaxed vibe which always goes down well 8) Also if someone asks you something, say 'so what have you done today then?' a good trick is to repeat... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Scared I Ruined a Potential Friendship |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2014, 7:04 am
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Replies: 7
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| I don't know this person or what you said but do you have any particular reason why you think they've rejected you outright? In most cases if you make a mistake, then apologise and the explain that you really didn't want to come across as you did, and you would really like to stay in touch with that... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Learning to do this? |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2014, 6:23 am
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Replies: 3
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| I would suggest thinking about the conversation from the other person's point of view when it comes to knowing what to say or what questions to ask. Invest yourself into the conversation. When someone you're talking to you tells you something about their job say, rather than ask 'what does that invo... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A whole lifetime without friends? |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2014, 4:34 am
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Replies: 4
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| Although I somehow (how?) made a few friends in my early school years, I became completely withdrawn as a teenager, and never had any real friends in these years, instead just sharing and latching onto my parent's friends and people the family members. To be honest it was my choice back then. I had ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Limited Outward Emotional 'Range'? |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2014, 4:15 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 609
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| I tend to be kind of aloof in my social interactions, whether it's at work or with my relatives. I typically don't get very angry or annoyed, or I at least don't display it even when I'm feeling it, but conversely I also don't get particularly overjoyed when there's good things going on. I think th... |
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