Welcome to the Wrong Planet!
Sounds like you have been on a journey to find your true self. I hope that it brings you happiness. My partner is also trans/nonbinary person, and I am a queer cis-woman. I suppose I am a younger queer than the queers you are courting, but I promise we exist! I'm sorry you've been having trouble finding love in our queer community.
I don't have much advice besides keep being yourself and exploring your identity, interests, and becoming happy with yourself. Focus on your well-being, hobbies, and being comfortable with the idea of being single, and hopefully the right person will come along when you least expect it.
What sort of interests/hobbies do you have? ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ
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With feral regards,
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