AnneOleson wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
AnneOleson wrote:
I think the person doesn't understand that it was rape.
It seems like lot of rapists don't know it's rape. I know just by reading and hearing from their perspective and there was some article I read online where these guys unknowingly admitted to they would rape a woman even though they didn't flat out say "I would rape a woman yes."
Wow.
Yup. This is exactly why rape is so common, and why it is more likely to be done by someone you know than a stranger in an alley--more men are capable of rape then we like to think because they can do rape but then call it something else in their heads, so they don't have to feel like a rapist even though they actually are rapists. I've personally known a guy that I know raped one of my friends when we were in high school that would never think of himself as a rapist, even though that's exactly what he is--I know he doesn't think so because years later he tried to contact me on Facebook to hang out and I just said "No, I don't hang out with date-rapists" and then I blocked him. I'm sure he had completely forgotten that I knew what he did to my friend, and it didn't occur to him that I would care or that I would consider it rape. For a LOT of dudes, date-rape isn't considered rape-rape; forcing someone you know to have sex doesn't count, it's only if you attack a stranger by knifepoint or something, according to a good third of college-age men.
It's really upsetting that it's the WORD that is the problem for them, not the ACTION of raping. Our society is so messed up.
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01 Jan 2017, 8:20 pm
