What is the typical day in college for an aspie?

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I started eight days ago. My typical day? Get the bus, buy something to drink, enter class and play Nintendo DS or go for a walk at lunch/free time. Yeah, uh... I don't talk to anyone, but myself there. If I wasn't to be talking to myself, I wouldn't be saying a single word at college at all, except if I was asked what the time was or something like that. Everyone, and I mean everyone has friends, sit together at tables and constantly use their phone. I never speak, I sit on my own at the table , I don't ever see anyone else play a Nintendo DS and when it comes to my phone, I only check what the time is on it. However, I pretty much enjoy my typical day at college, just as long as no one was to start hating me for no reason. This is what every day so far in college has been like for me so far.

My college life so far has been so different to everyone I see there, it's just so strange, even though I find myself being different all the time. I love being alone, but I do have friends, just not there. I go on facebook, although I hardly use that. I'm friends with my family. I feel that this is enough socializing for me. Ok, thanks for your time. I.... just felt like saying this somewhere.

First step; leave your DS at home.

If you've only been in college for 8 days, then people are still getting to know each other and the cliques haven't had time to form yet. Now is your time to meet people, before they all start drifting off in packs.

Second Step: Say hello to the person sitting next to you in your class. Ask them how their holidays were/ what they think of the course so far/ where they're from... just small stuff.

Next lunch time, go up to where some of your classmates are and say hi and ask if you can sit next to them (they'll say yes. They don't know each other that well either).

Oh yeah, and add everyone on your year on facebook if that's your thing.

Just keep doing small stuff like that and people will start to chat to you more.

Last edited by Lene on 21 Sep 2010, 2:18 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Me: Get up, "get ready" slowly, either work out & eat in my room or go get breakfast in the cafeteria, class(es), club & or lunch, class(es), hang out with peoples/study, go to room & study/chill/stim, dinner/hang out, study/hang out/club, possibly work out (I alternate morning vs. night work outs), shower, pack stuff for next day, bed, etc. REPEAT

Apart from lectures and tutorials, my days tended to consist of being in the library, alone, struggling to find the motivation to study while my head was buried in books that were of interest to me but irrelevant to my actual course; staying at home in the evening (alone, even on a Saturday) struggling to find motivation to study and watching TV instead, and/or maybe having an aimless wander alone around the city. I was asocial then in a way I'm not now.

Go to college, attend lessons and do work, go to free periods and do work, eat lunch while doing work, and maybe give myself a break in between it all.

If I am having a break, I browse the internets on the computer or socialise with my phone (e-mails etc).

Well, uh, thanks for the input, although it's not easy for me to start a conversation. I have been somewhat already trying though, it's almost like asking someone out when it comes to me. I'll keep trying though, but I'm perfectly ok if all else fails.

About the facebook. That I will probably manage to do, in fact, I think I may already have some of them added. Anyways, thanks.

I don't do really socialize with anyone at school. I go to my classes ask a lot of questions (and drive some of my profs crazy) and then go directly to the library and study and then directly home, or I just go directly home.....oh ya..... and spend a lot of money on campus food on days when I stay at school for a long time. That is what I do on a typical day. If the person next to me initiates conversation with me then I talk to them.....but it usually turns out to be a very awkward conversation..... I haven't made any friends yet... and I am in my last year of a four year undergrad degree........

I'm exactly the same; you've no idea how awkward I was in first year of university, but believe me you just have to keep trying (or wait for someone else to take you under their wing- the problem with that tactic though is that you never learn to do it by yourself, you always rely on others making the move). Seriously, just try putting the DS away (even if it is Dragonquest IX ) and forcing yourself to be open to others; first year is the year that people make their friends for the rest of college so it is worth the effort.

Anyway, as for the original question; I'm usually up at 7, in by 8/9, lectures through till lunch (coffee and library) then lectures till 5, home to bf; cinema/study/dossing around till 2am. I hang around the few close friends I have if they're there, otherwise I chit chat with others in my year whom I like.

I am enrolled in an Asperger's specific program through my school's Center for Students with Disabilities (CSD). So most days I go to class (I have class at either 8 or 9 AM every weekday). Then, depending on the day, I might be done with class by late morning, or I may have another class but not for several hours. Either way, I go to CSD, which has study rooms for me to do work in. 3 times a week, I meet with the Graduate Assistant who is essentially the person who assists with the AS Program (it's called SEAD, that's what I'm calling it from here out.) For the record, the GA meets with all the students in SEAD on a regular basis; the director handles administrative tasks and communication with university staff, instructors, etc. and meets with students only if something comes up. Anyway, I'm generally in CSD for several hours a day, before either going to the rest of my classes, or if I have none, going back to my dorm. I'm a member of several clubs, when those meet I go, and I try to at least go out and do something on Friday and Saturday nights. If you make the effort to go out and do something, eventually you'll meet people. So join clubs (UConn has about 300 I think) and meet people there. assuming you pick clubs you like and not random ones (you'd be surprised what people do to say they're "getting involved") the students you meet will share a common interest with you.

Every day is different for me. I live on campus, so I do different stuff every day. I eat in the cafeteria, hang out with people, go to my classes...I live here basically, so I don't have a routine like get up, go to class, go home, etc...

My day is pretty much the same as yours OP, except replace "DS" with "Ipod" . After a couple of terms, I learned that pretty much everyone at my college is boring and/or stupid, so I don't even bother to try anymore. However, you've only been in for 8 days so far, so don't give up hope yet.

Well, I usually force myself to get up, and then I do an epic three mile downhill bike ride.

Once I'm at school, I usually enjoy a cigarette outside before and after classes. While I'm smoking I frequently run into classmates and my professors and often I will engage them in conversation for a bit. Other times I'll be inside checking my email, and doing some readings. I usually make an effort to visit one of my professors in their office at least once a week: it's a good way to get noticed, and a great way to make sure that your in touch with the rest of the class. I have it kind of easy because all of my classes are in the same building, so I don't have to move around campus to much.

After I'm done for the day, I'll usually visit with my friend in his dormroom, or I'll ride straight home. That pretty much sums it up for me.

My day consists of waking up at around 6am in the morning to brush my teeth and have something small to eat. Then I go to my first class between 8am-10am. After going to around two to three more classes, I will either go to a computer club, engineering club, or the LGBT center for a small amount of socialization.

I will then either go back to my dormitory to study and do homework or I will go to the electrical engineering room and build robots or start practicing a design for an invention. That is basically it.

Find clubs to join that fit your interests, and don't join too many. Sure, you risk some animosity, but life is full of risks that you must take so that you can meet people that maybe can help you and you can help in the future. The club could be a college club or something in the area that is not within the college.

My day is usually making a running commentary on my surroundings.
"It's too early for math."
"You can't spell to save your life-are you sure you're not in the third grade?"
"Dude, even the teacher hates you. Just be quiet."
"What does that say? Isn't there a neat-handwriting requirement for teachers?"
And then I go home and do yoga or something.

The average day starts off with me being in a corner doing my work for a couple of hours, then a prolonged but boring break because I finished my English course and there is hardly anything to do, then more of the noise in the afternoon. Why I'm with the bad kids, I don't know