Do you want kids?

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Probably not.
I quite like the idea of adopting an older child or teenager though (I've always thought that it's really unfair that most people choose to foster or adopt the cute younger kids instead of them.)

^that would be a wonderful thing to do, if you do it. it's often true that the younger ones are more often picked.

recently, i have begun to have obsessions relating to procreation. i cannot get my mind off bringing another human to this world and molding hir as my own. i KNOW i am not ready now, but i long for the day when i become a mommy. perhaps i'm idealizing/romanticizing this but the thoughts are unshakable.

No I do not want children, I would not want the responsibility or the aggravation.

I have a new opinion, I'm not sure. The idea of caring for an infant properly scares the hell out of me. I'd feel like I had wasted a good adult life though if I don't at least adopt or mentor some older kid.

No because of crappy genetics. I'm 5 ft 3 and ugly and in addition to my autism I have other problems. Do I really want to pass on my sh***y genetics to someone only for them to live a sh***y life?


If anything, my genetics deserve to be bred out of the gene pool. I'm a f****d up piece of s**t, a genetic freak of nature.

HELL no. Cant stand kids. Not trying to have my life ruined, thanks.

Not until a law passes in my country whereby any child under the age of 18 that becomes a disappointment to its parents can be put down. I will not spend all that effort on something that'll turn into a failure and embarrassment.

No way. I can't stand little kids, and I don't want to be the parent of an NT kid who drinks underage and goes out to party and does all the stupid things that NT teens seem to do.

I can't reproduce, so it's null. Unlike others my age, however, I don't mind this, as I never wanted children. I myself am a bag of genetic issues, so it's likely I'd pass those on. My life is also a constant disaster of one extreme alternative or another, and I would never put a child through that. Plus, increasingly, it's likly I couldn't stand the aggravation or the noise.

On one hand, creating a whole new person from my genetics who I will more likely than not love unconditionally sounds kind of cool.

On the other, attaining my own goals will be more difficult, and little kids/babies are awful.

This is going to sound horrible, but I often fantasize about having a child young and giving it up, only to reconnect with it as a teen years later. Sounds nice in fantasy, but terribly cold as an actual goal.

(Oh, and I would say I don't want to pass on my anxiety, depression, and ASD, but if I have all those and still prefer being alive, then it's only ideal to think that they will as well. I wouldn't want to imply that not being alive at all is better than all those things combined. It sounds like the opposite of what counselors tell me.)

Sour mood or not, the kid could be like that whether or not I raised it. If it is a twit, then at least I won't have just put fifteen years into raising one, and if it's got its own family, I'll just keep my distance. Still be there, but not as bad as having to live with one.

Besides, it's still kind of cool, in a superficial way.

(Though that is treating the child like an experiment, which probably wouldn't do wonders for its personality.)

Maybe. I think it would be fun to have kids and have someone to be with me as I aged, but it would be a lot of work and pregnancy does NOT sound fun. And I don't want to adopt for some reason. I think it's because it's more like having a stranger suddenly come live at your house, instead of bringing a new person into the world with no past experiences that might taint their image of me.