I find your lack of ambition disturbing.

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I don't want to buy a house. One day I want to buy my apartment. I love living in an apartment. I'm on the top floor. I love eating dinner on the balcony and admiring the view.

You can do that with a house, if you have an upper-deck. There are plenty of houses like that in Va, Tn and Ga, amoung other states. Also the decks are much longer than an apartment balcony.

I won't be as high up. Houses don't have as many levels as apartment buildings.

How high up do you want to be? Do you want to live at the top of Trump tower, or some place similar?

One day I'd like to live somewhere like that. But for now I'll have to make do down here on the 5th floor.

Then you are going to have to make more money than me. Places like that are too much money, as much as I like Trump it's true.

I will be 42 in june. too late to change careers and stuck in this perma temp hell.

You still haven't explain why "ambition" is so good.

Ambition makes you strive to attain goals, to better yourself, to live a higher standard of life. By your logic, why not live in a cardboard box and beg for food?

My logic? I stated what my goals are earlier in the thread.

Your logic, as in implying that ambition is bad.

Buying real estate might be your Aspie special interest. You can't expect everybody to share it.

It isn't an "aspie special interest", lot of people aspire to own a house; even if there are less people now then before. I sense a lot of bitterness, not just from you but from others. As if I am vilified for speaking about my ambitions and even more vilified by explaining how to obtain my goals. Furthermore, I explained to you how owning a house today is possible and you respond with calling my desire an "aspie special interest", which tells me I may have made you mad in some way by pointing out how to go about ownign a home.

Asking what's good about it isn't implying it's bad. You haven't explained your position beyond telling everyone who questions your vague OP that their opinion is sad, or claiming they're bitter.

Nah mate, not angry with you at all!
What I was trying to say is that people often want different things. It's a personal taste and lifestyle thing. As people we are all different, and that's a wonderful thing too because otherwise it would be a terribly boring world.

As for the house vs apartment thing, it's another area where there are pros and cons for each.
My main residence is a very comfortable apartment in a nice building in a capital city in Australia. It's very secure and has great views off the large balcony. It's a great lifestyle with many restaurants and cafes within walking distance and easy to get to places through public transport. As I spend most of my time away from home with business and sporting matters I can simply lock the door and leave. No yard to worry about and the motion sensing cameras I have push video to my iphone should anyone get in through the multiple levels of security. Unless you're spiderman and can climb up the vertical walls of a tall building and drill a hole through double glazed glass you probably won't be getting in. I find the security and safety when I'm home very reassuring. Sure the place doesn't have a yard and white picket fence, but that doesn't bother me at all. The place is worth about triple what I paid for it many years ago and suits my lifestyle perfectly. I'm happy with it.

As for being ambitious we all get to set the goals for ourselves, nobody else gets a say. I'm now living the lifestyle that I've been planning for many years by working less, laughing more and spending a lot more "me" time on my sporting pursuits. I've no ambition to have a "status" job with an impressive title and people sucking up to me. YMMV.

It can be done.

I changed at age 40, with a family, and a move to another state.

You're more capable than you think.