I find your lack of ambition disturbing.

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I'm not sure if I should post here because of my differences.

When only 19 I met (and married at age 20) a beautiful NT goddess...how this happened
I'm not exactly sure, she said/says something about my good traits...I suggest everyone
develop good traits.

Moving along.....We decided we would have children (2) and that, if it was possible,
living in a house would be best (for many reasons) for them. It took a while but
eventually we were able to do so. We feel this was indeed beneficial for our kids.

But many of the "downsides" mentioned here are true, and now, a little older, some
of these things are coming true.

So we'll sell this house soon...the extra money will help "pad" our retirement. But if
I started over today I'd start saving for a down payment sooner than we had. In
addition, instead of selling at age 74 I believe we would sell around retirement time,
to make our "golden years" more enjoyable and less money oriented.

My apartment is clean, well-lit, and quite nice. It doesn't have more space than a single person not raising children needs.

I'd rather be well-read, well-traveled, well-loved, and healthy than focus on getting a car, a house, or a fancy title. Those are just things.

I used to spend so much time studying for the next step in a fancy career I felt rushed when I even made time for my dad. I'm glad I quit and use those books to prop up a lamp now, and read books I care about instead.

I am indeed bitter about wasted time and people who told me this was the only way to not be an ambitionless loser, a disappointment, just some Aspie who doesn't care about anything and can't contribute.

That might be a good job for you, but what makes you think that it would be a good job for me?

^ What do you think would be a good game for you?

None. I'm pretty much useless when it comes to employment.

Job I mean. I've been playing my old Game Boy games today. Call it a Freudian slip.

Judgemental much?

Ya know, every generation keeps changing. Product of the times I suppose. For some people, just trying to get by in life is difficult especially when you're always having to always process simple processes of life.

Kudos to you I suppose.

I didn't even know it was that cheap to buy a house

I admire your goals and ambitions and I hope you do well for yourself. A house would be a very nice thing to own. I know that if I ever win the Lotto Max, I'd be moving into a house. I've been looking at a lot of portable houses on the Internet and especially the pod houses. I'm going to make a point to start saving my $$ so that dream of mine could be a reality. Even if it becomes a reality 10 years into the future, at least I could say that I planned and saved for it.

I figured that's what you meant.

I can see where the OP is coming with this. I cannot believe how the majority of people I knew in my 20s had no desire but to say enough to pay the bar tab that coming weekend. Even in my mid 30s I see very little difference in attitude. Of course, they always seem to have plenty of money to spend downtown. One is almost 60 and acts and dresses just like a teenager.

What's really frustrating is that other people have called me 'lazy and unmotivated' when I have a University Degree, 2 College Certificates and am close to getting 2 more once I complete all the necessary exams and file the paperwork. I never thought in my mid 30s I would have been doing the same job for the same salary for an entire decade. I couldn't live with myself sitting around doing nothing: I even took a break from my career to triple the speed of getting these Certificates and am itching to get back so I can start saving for my wife and (hopefully) child's future and hopefully finally land that big job I have been gunning for too many years to count.

It's one of those things I've never had in my life, since very early age - ambition. Absolute zero. I'm happy not owning much and I don't see the point of dedicating my free time to working towards some material stuff. I can see it as a giant character flaw, but I can't even talk myself into wanting things I tried!
Why the hell I even got a Master's Degree? I just have a huge desire to know more and that's it. Not to do anything meaningful with that knowledge, I don't care.
I really tried to reason with myself and make myself care, but it's just not working at all. No kind of parental or peer pressure or comparing myself to others worked.

People in their 20s are actually way more driven than me (my NT sister for example) and my friends in their 30s are not only driven but also achieving a lot. Some are just like me though, happy with simple jobs and a predictable day to day life. My parents were like that, so maybe that's it, but it would be silly to blame them in any way.

Working to buy material stuff? That's not how it works. The truly ambitious invest the majority of their disposable income, rather than buying material stuff. They would see shopping as a waste of money that should be invested.

Also the ambitious don't have any free time for shopping or using recreational products such as video games.

Then what's the point? You only live once. I am not ambitious per se, but I want more of what is interesting in my life and less what isn't. That means that work for the sake of just investable income is not interesting to me. Doing something interesting, technical challenging is something I prefer over just getting income. So, I am not opposed to work, but I am opposed to joylessness. That also means that while I invest some money, I buy instruments and computer stuff just because it brings me pleasure. The anhedonic life is IMHO not worth living.

That works too

What is your technically challenging job?