Please will everybody stop staring at me???

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Veggie Farmer
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12 Mar 2018, 5:19 pm

This happens to me. I can’t maintain a neutral face, I show my every fleeting mood. I think in just about every case when people were staring at me, I was walking around wearing a facial expression that matched my inner thoughts, not events in the local environment. People were wondering what was going on around us that was making me smile or frown. Do your friends say you have a very expressionate face?


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13 Mar 2018, 2:00 am

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If you’re supposed to look poor somewhere and you don’t, guess who’ll be any robber’s preferred target.


I don't live in a poor town, nor do I look rich. Just average, normal, standard, same, etc etc etc..

Veggie Farmer wrote:
This happens to me. I can’t maintain a neutral face, I show my every fleeting mood. I think in just about every case when people were staring at me, I was walking around wearing a facial expression that matched my inner thoughts, not events in the local environment. People were wondering what was going on around us that was making me smile or frown. Do your friends say you have a very expressionate face?


Usually it's Aspies who don't have an expressionate face. I have facial expressions when around people and talking, but when I'm just on my own in public I look rather neutral.

I am always told that people have their own lives to worry about and are not interested in a random girl like me just standing or walking minding my own business and is doing no-one any harm.
I feel like asking starers if they have a problem with me but I know that will not give me any answers, it will just creep them out.
Yesterday I got off the bus and wanted to cross the road, but I wanted to wait for the bus to pull off first. So I just walked slowly, because I didn't want to just stand there in the middle of the path (sidewalk) waiting like a prick. I've often seen people walk along slowly until the bus goes so that they can cross the road without a bus in their way. I allowed plenty of room on the path in case other people were going to walk by. But then this man appeared out of nowhere and overtook me on the path, and as he did so he was really staring at me as if I was doing something bizarre. He was gawping at me so much, that I was creeped out and thought he was going to mug me or something, because he slowed down so he could stare. Flippin' heck, did it creep me out! I wasn't doing anything wrong. I'm generally a fast walker, and I'm often overtaking dawdling people, but I don't stare like that. Everybody's going about their own daily business, there's no precise standard really, so what the f**k do people f*****g want from me???????! !! !! !! !!

So, anyway, let me get this straight. It's OK for NTs to stare at me or check me out, but it's not OK for me to stare at other people and check them out?

OK this thread is making me agoraphobic. I'm just going to go with kraftie's explanation and call it a day.


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