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ToShinTim
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03 Mar 2012, 3:43 pm

Quite often, when I'm alone, I find myself replaying conversations, good and bad, in my head. While doing this, I come up with other things that I could have said to make the conversation better, portraying the individual(s) that I was talking to as well as myself. Am I going crazy, or is this normal?



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03 Mar 2012, 3:46 pm

All the time. At one stage I used to replay the whole day before I was going to bed.



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03 Mar 2012, 3:51 pm

I do it almost every day. It's my way of compensating for the situations where I had no control. Even if I had no control over the outcome of a conversation in real life, I can control it in my head. It's comforting.



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03 Mar 2012, 3:52 pm

I do this very often.



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03 Mar 2012, 4:15 pm

Kind of and its not typically by choice...I will be alone and it will be quiet and I will remember something horrible that was said and try not to get too upset over it....sometimes I might think of better responses that just hadn't come to me at the time though.


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03 Mar 2012, 4:58 pm

Ditto.

On the flip side of this, I also "rehearse" potential conversations in my head before they happen. There are times when this has been quite useful, because it prevented me from saying the wrong thing in an actual conversation.


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03 Mar 2012, 5:11 pm

All the time and I hate it. I think it's a way of trying to improve on communication but it makes me feel crazy too sometimes because it is so incessant.

I do the "rehearsing" potential conversations too. *sighs*



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03 Mar 2012, 5:14 pm

I replay conversations and events in my head all the time. What's embarassing is when I vocalize my thoughts in front of other people. I also reherse potential conversations in my head. Of course, how this actually turns out depends on the reactions of the other person...


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03 Mar 2012, 5:24 pm

I find the whole thing is futile anyway because conversations can't be predicted no matter how hard I try to get the right language ahead of time and exactly why it makes me so crazy dealing also with how hard I work for language that never really works the way it's supposed to. Oh, I could scream. :?



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03 Mar 2012, 6:08 pm

eigerpere wrote:
All the time and I hate it. I think it's a way of trying to improve on communication but it makes me feel crazy too sometimes because it is so incessant.

I do the "rehearsing" potential conversations too. *sighs*


^^ THIS ^^

I hate it. It's so fricken tiresome, but it's not within my control.


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03 Mar 2012, 8:00 pm

I thought that it was quite common to do that to some extent.


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04 Mar 2012, 5:01 am

ToShinTim wrote:
Quite often, when I'm alone, I find myself replaying conversations, good and bad, in my head. While doing this, I come up with other things that I could have said to make the conversation better, portraying the individual(s) that I was talking to as well as myself. Am I going crazy, or is this normal?


^^THIS^^

Completely. I also end up with bad conversations stuck in a loop in my head. Sometimes going over them time and time again to see where I possibly went wrong. What I did wrong to end up causing such negativity. Ultimately I feel its because I cannot logical reconcile off the situation, but my brain tries to do this over and over again. Its because it gets stuck in a never ending loop. I think its perfectly normal for us......... (Normal..... *sniggers*)



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04 Mar 2012, 8:55 am

Oh hell yes, waay too much. My family call it 'worrying in circles'.



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04 Mar 2012, 11:46 am

I thought this was something everyone does?



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04 Mar 2012, 12:01 pm

Sometimes


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04 Mar 2012, 2:42 pm

ToShinTim wrote:
Quite often, when I'm alone, I find myself replaying conversations, good and bad, in my head. While doing this, I come up with other things that I could have said to make the conversation better, portraying the individual(s) that I was talking to as well as myself. Am I going crazy, or is this normal?


Almost every night before falling asleep.

I've had...hundreds imaginary 'what if' conversations with my (non-imaginary!! ! :lol: ) girlfriend, teachers, etc.

Don't know if this is normal of us though...prolly an aspie thing?