You know, you could try to make the conversation more interesting. I know what its like to not be interested in anothers conversation, but usually i try to get something out of it myself and it makes the topic so much more interesting. I mean, you dont have to be totally interested in the textures and colors of the carpets and drapes, there are an infinite amount of things to be talked about. I mean, once you start to enjoy the moment so to speak, everything is so much easier and entertaining.
Here are some things i can think of off the top of my head
-what makes these flats so special? -you can add more to that of your [non standoffish] opinion, "to me, as long as they wont rust or break, its all the same" your mom of course would respond to this and depending on the way you said it, or how she feels towards you, she'll try to explain why
-since when did you start liking carpets so much? something you took after your mom?
-"you know, i think red would look better in this room with that carpet"-more opinion, etc
Graelwyn, this has much more to do with your relationship with your mother than it does with having AS and "thinking differently". I can see your not as "materialistic", but you have to put yourself in her shoes, maybe these are one of her few interests that please her in some way you dont really understand. I see a mother who's at least trying to have some conversation and spending time with her daughter in one of the few ways that she can. Now im not taking sides, im just showing you that we all in one way have to deal with what weve been given. You could take this opportunity and make it into so much more than being told about her "materialistic" interests. I noticed you said you dont give a f__k about this sort of stuff, this is the type of attitude that doesn't help you in social situations, in fact makes it worse. Imagine if we lived in a world where everything that you said HAD to really please the other person intellectually and emotionally? Thats a tough paradigm to live, instead, while your in the conversation attempt to make it interesting for you as well.
EDIT: LOL, disregard the flats part, ive never heard that referring to an apartment/house/place of stay
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