Aging parents

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Anyone have experience or currently have older parents now living with you?

We have now for almost 10 years.

My thought to speech filter is much better at work than at home.

The changes and levels of a few of the 5 senses (sensory issues)have much to do with this.

Thought this would be a good safe place to share.

What is considered old? I still live with my parents and they are turning 60 and I'm turning 30.

I'm 27, my dad is 60 and my mother is 58.

95

I'm 60+

My wife and I bought a home so they could move in with us.

It is working well except mentioned sensory issues.

drlaugh, what exactly do you mean by sensory issues?

All our elders are gone, which is in some ways a relief. (sounds awful I know) My dad passed away about 3 years ago but at least my spouse did get to meet him before he left. And in our family, you almost have to know the family members, to understand the individual.

Considering moving back home. I'm visiting there now. I feel like I'm a kid again, like I have to defer to them and their routines and timelines. It's their house and their money and all that though.

Are you having to spend your own time and such taking care of them?
Is it stressful just having them around all the time?

Live at home; parent is 63. It is scary to think about them incapacitated or gone.

I get the sensory issues of having other people in the house. Is there any way for you to have an "escape" room where you could just be alone when you need to? We have an RV because we like to travel but I need the same "place" to sleep every night. If we had to have someone move into the house with us for some reason, I would definitely use the RV for alone time and to sleep in.

Most everything us OK. It is just one room.

I do lots of things including working full time, gym and Church.
Actually since starting this thread the room doesn't always start alarms in my head.
I sometime create things like it is going to be like this all over the house.

I'm not the primary caregiver.
Thanks for sharing suggestions you are all appreciated.
It also has reminded me of my parents death at 67 & 71
An older(80) friend died a few weeks ago. I almost didn't stay for the funeral because the church had that old wet moldy smell as soon as I stepped inside.

That could also play into it

I talked with my counselor about this issue.
He suggested
A. Prepare myself before interning room
1. Remind myself of why I was in there
2. Consider it is good to help others.
3. Breath through my mouth
4. Be grateful that i am able to help and don't need it myself