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LOL I thought I was the only one who have been accused of "tea snobbery"!

I need to constantly have my hands busy, or my thoughts are scattered.

Do you find that without noise, you have difficulty concentrating?

Hello,

I doubt this will make a difference, but I am in a futile mood. Words only have the meaning we give them -- they are a social construct -- nothing more, nothing less. So, why make up a thread that arbitrarily excludes certain words or phrases, and say, as the OP does, that you do not want to exclude anyone.

You can no have it both ways: excluding words, yet saying you do not want to exclude those who would use those words.

This thread is not meant to be a debate about airy-fairy philosophical opinions on the meaning of words. This thread is about having just ONE PLACE where people actually agree not to break the TOS:

The following activities are unacceptable on WrongPlanet:

"1. Posting offensive language, comments, video, or images.
Unacceptable content includes swearing;"

Most other threads are FULL of cursing and swearing and offensive language, because people constantly break these rules.

If you have a problem with this thread and keeping to the forum rules, how about you don't post here? You could go to any one of the millions of other threads where people curse, and post there instead. If you feel this excludes you, then it's through your own choice, for choosing to ignore the rules you agreed to when you signed up. I just don't want to read swear words any more. I'm tired of it. They offend me. And this thread is meant for chatting, not debating the forum rules, so if you want to question the rule about no swearing, please go and start a new thread or email Alex or a mod about it. Thanks!

And now, back to some chat:

It's raining this morning! And I've got to go out on a walk but I still feel sleepy and pooey.

You're welcome!

Except...you can't actually read it via that link. It's just a review. I can't find anywhere where you can actually read a Rupert annual without buying it.

Aww, I wasn't really crying! It was just the closest thing to a "sad" smiley that I could find. I felt bad that I couldn't find you a proper bedtime story.

Yay! Another Aspie who loves hugs!

Are your daily hug needs catered for by your mum?

It seems to work by extremes. Most people on the spectrum seem to HATE physical contact far more than the average NT, but there are some of us (although we're in a minority) who seem to CRAVE it far more than the average NT. I am like that. I am a hug machine. And I don't currently have anyone to hug, which makes me sad, but at least I have my dog. He is very good for cuddling into at night, and he sleeps with me, along with my cuddly toy of course! He's nice and warm and cute.

When I was your age and still at home, I used to walk up behind my mum and hug her a lot when she was in the kitchen busy washing the dishes. It used to make her laugh sometimes, but other times she would get cross and yell at me to let go, because I still kept hugging her even if she started walking around, and it's kind of hard to walk properly when you have a human clam stuck to your back.

Okay, good (:
And it's okay all_white, you tried your best, I am still very appreciative (:
You'll find that it doesn't take much to make me happy (The same to make me sad as well sadly)

Of course I love hugs, I've loved it since I was a kid. I'd hug my teacher even, I hug most of my friends (Not males, because they don't like it... But some of them don't mind ^^)

They were, but she changed in a blue moon, it really broke my heart
It's been really hard recently because there is no one to hug, I cope by hugging my teddy, without him, I'd be very sad right now, but I am trying to stay positive ^^ (Back where I use to live I'd get at least 10 hugs a day from friends. Especially my deceased Youth Minister, she was the one person I looked up to in the whole world, also someone I can trust)

Yeah, my Mum told me something about that, and I saw it on television too that they have no emotion, no love, they lack emotion then the average, while we have a little too much emotion. I met this one kid, and he told me that he had it, but he was a complete opposite to me, but similar in some ways. He didn't like eating in public in front of people (I'm fine with that now though) and he lacked love, and emotion. He was a real bad boy.

I am a hug machine too, and you're lucky to have your dog (:
My dog went to heaven a month ago

I use to do that to my Mum too!! ! (:
She'd react the same way, it sounds so funny when you say it.
I use to cling on to my Mum while she tried to walk around as well, hahas ^^

Sorry for the long wait for my reply, I was googling what "catered" meant
I told you my comprehending is bad

Awww, I'm sorry I used a hard word you had to go and look up. I will try and only use words that are easy to understand.

I am so sorry to hear about your dog. That's awful!

Yes, I know that there is an idea that some Aspies lack emotion, but from what I have read on here, I don't think that's true. They do have emotions - everybody does - but perhaps they just don't choose to externalise them. Or perhaps they are just not as soppy and cheery and bouncy as we two are.

Maybe they are more detached and aloof. But that doesn't mean they lack love. There are all sorts of ways of loving people, you know. Everyone has a different way of expressing love.

Self-help book alert:

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the ... languages/

Scroll down that link to read the different ways people show love.

Although I've never read the book, I found that idea very helpful without even having to read the book. The idea is that you should arrange the five things into order of importance to you. The problem is that everyone has their own order inside their own mind, of what makes them feel most loved, and we tend to assume everyone else's is the same as our own, which isn't the case. So if people aren't doing the thing that is your number one (or two), you decide they are "unloving" by your standards, when actually they are very probably being loving by their own standards. Mine goes like this:

#1 Physical affection
#2 Words of affirmation
#3 Quality time
#? Acts of service
#? Receiving Gifts

(the last two tie for fourth and fifth place).

So, you see, I am a cuddly person who likes people saying soppy things to me and giving me lots of hugs and strokes, and until I realised that not everyone has the same order of priorities, I always thought my dad didn't love me, because when he comes to see me he doesn't hug me or say soppy things. Instead, he looks around the house to see what jobs he can do to help me.

I have since realised that doing acts of service is his number one way of showing somebody he loves them, so he does love me after all.

They put your dogs to sleep? Oh no, that's so awful. I'm so sorry. I don't know what to say. ((hugs))

I hope you've got a safe home now. I was recently evicted from a house and know how terrifying it is. I was frightened I would have to go and sleep in a homeless hostel, and thought I would lose my dog, too. They don't allow dogs in those hostels. But thankfully I have a nice safe warm house to sleep in after all. I hope you're safe, too. I think you must be, because at least you seem to have an Internet connection. That's a good sign that you're living in a house.

Don't worry about having seemed judgmental. At least you've got things straight now. Like I explained, I used to think that way, too, until I understood things a bit more, so we're both in the same boat! It's a very easy mistake to make, because we are only familiar with our own reality, and don't know what it's like to be anyone else, so we all tend to assume that everyone else must think the same and feel the same as us, when actually, they don't. I can't imagine how it must feel to be like them - and they probably can't imagine how it must feel to be like me.

We all go through life learning all the time, and constantly having to change our opinions. It's not bad to admit you were wrong. It's a good thing.