i selected i am female but would rather be genderless.
it's not so much that i want to be genderless as it is that i want to be equal. and i want gender to be a non-issue.
in present day society, i think only a fool would choose to be a woman, but then i haven't had a lot of positive womanly experiences so it is difficult for me not think that way.
i learned at an early age the difference between boys and girls. i had a sister and a male cousin and we hung out together. my grandpa would give us money. my sis and i each got a dollar and my male cousin always got a fiver because he was a boy. grandpa came out and straight up said it most of the time.
when i was maybe six or so, the same male cousin and i were outside with our moms and several other folks. it was hot, so he took off his shirt. i was hot, so i took mine off, too. my mother could not have been more horrified. i had to put my shirt back on but he did not.
as a kid, i would ask for boy toys like race tracks with cars and action figure stuff for christmas but was told that stuff was for boys and i wasn't one so i just gave up.
when i was 14 or so this boy liked me and he opened the door for me and put his hand on my waist at a party. i told my friend about it like teenage girls do and it got back to him and his friends. i guess maybe his friends were teasing him about liking me, so the next time he had an audience, he felt it necessary to pick me up, turn me upside down, and carry me kicking and screaming down a hallway intending to put my head in the toilet just to prove to everyone that he did not like me.
most recently i left my job that i loved because i felt there was misogyny among the management. it wasn't the only reason i left, but that it had turned into something of a boys club definitely played a part in my decision to leave. i had valid complaints and had suffered several injustices along with several other female employees who have since either quit or been fired. but when we went to management, and upper management with our complaints, we were viewed as a bunch of crazy women and were largely ignored, or worse patronized.
i saw favoritism toward male employees including an instance when a woman was more qualified than a man but was getting paid less to do similar work. my friend lisa had worked there for a year, had a college degree, and was managing 5 employees. my bf had worked there three months, had no college degree, no employees, both had similar responsibilities, lisa was actually responsible for more square footage of the store and was making 50 cents less than my boyfriend.
these are just a few of the stories i have.
as far as men and women in the larger sense, when a man walks down an empty street alone and a large group of women are suddenly walking towards him, he never once gets afraid that they might overwhelm him, drag him into an alley, gang rape him, beat him to death, then rape him some more, then throw him in a dumpster.
and clothes always fit you when you're a boy. women's clothes just get uglier and more insulting every season. i recently bought some diva jeans from old navy. all i wanted was some all cotton jeans with no sparkles or weird pockets. old navy had 4 jeans types- the Diva, the Flirt, the Sweetheart, the Goddess.
boys clothes look basically the same every year and the sizes makes sense. my stupid diva jeans are a size 4 but i think i could wear a 2 and i am probably really a size 6. i know i like a 31 or 32 in boys jeans. and a 31 or 32 is always a 31 or 32 in boys jeans.
men also aren't expected to shave under their arms. i quit shaving the pits about 2 years ago and never looked back. i was giving myself eyestrain trying to see if i got every last hair. i would literally see stars.
it's okay for men to be fat. i get tired of the sitcoms with the fat man married to the thin wife. it is also okay for a man to age.
insurance companies had to be taken to court to be forced to cover oral contraceptives for women, but they paid for Viagara without thinking twice about it.
male breasts are not considered sexual or "dirty" even if they are large and pendulous like a woman's.
there are certainly advantages to being female if you are a barbie girl and/or if you enjoy playing mind games with/manipulating people, but neither of those is really me.
gamer chic is more the way i identify myself. there are certain situations where it can be fun to be the only girl watching football or playing video and card games with the guys.
the thing i like most about being female is my ability multi-task, my affection for words, and the general complexity of my personality. those things i attribute to being female.
being an asperger on a whole wheat bun, i have to say that i find the emotional part of being female very trying and difficult to manage. i am very logical and there is no logic in emotion. i often feel as if i am the lovechild of a betazoid and a vulcan.
i don't think a day goes by that i don't shed a tear for some reason or another. today surprise visitors triggered it. i've got the cleanest eyes in the neighborhood. i never see men burst into tears over anything.
i feel like there are two distinct mes [not in a multiple personality sense] in my head. logical me both soothes and abuses emotional me in turn and i often find it difficult to reconcile the two.
hope this is the kind of info you were looking for. :]
one more:
mother's day was a holiday created by the eisenhower administration to encourage women to stay at home and have babies and not work.
20 Apr 2008, 9:13 pm
