GIRL PROBLEMS - SHOES AREN'T MY FRIEND.

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Howdy! Having a small problem I think. I always seem to have a problem finding decent shoes that fit. I like shoes with chunky heels and tie up oxfords. I found some burgundy shoes that are oxfords and tie ups and have a chunky heel that is a height of 2.75 inches. All the reviews are giving them 5/5 stars unless they don't fit around the toe area. My problem is they fit with my feet but feel a little too high. Am I weird? Is my problem that I need to learn how to walk in higher heels? My question is to the women on this site and what your experiences are with high heeled shoes. Please help. Guys would probably think that if the shoes aren't comfortable then don't keep them, but I don't believe that any high heeled shoe can really be comfortable and women still manage to wear them. So what's my problem?

I now cannot tolerate the discomfort of a heel higher than maybe 1.5 inches, 2" at a push, but I did used to wear higher heels back in my teens and 20s.

I think I had some heels that were maybe 4", and various sizes down from there. It was not comfortable! But I put up with the pain because I was young, I wanted to look stylish, pretty, sexy, fashionable, and so if something had a high heel well that was just the price I paid to have cute shoes.

As the years went by I just wanted to be more comfortable; I work on my feet in a practical job so I was always in tennis shoes/sport shoes/sneakers (trainers in the UK) for work anyway. And I gradually started to want to wear similarly comfortable shoes at the weekend too, particularly when I was in a new city where I walked a lot more.

That relocation sealed the deal and I started wearing lower heels and shoes built for comfort full-time. I'm currently in love with Skechers! I don't think I ever want to wear a high heel again -- unless a few conditions are met: I have to be either driving or driven to a dressy event, and at this event I know I will be able to sit to my heart's content rather than be doing a lot of standing or walking. At the moment my whole life is about either walking, cycling or taking public transportation where I'm often standing anyway, so I just can't stand the pain of a lot of walking around in high heels, and I wear soft Skecher-type shoes all the time now.

But then again -- I also have no nice places to go where I'd be wearing pretty things anyway, so the soft sport shoes aren't really out of place in my life, stylistically.

Nurseangela, have you tried wedge heels? They usually have thicker soles to go with the elevated heel, so they're more comfortable. I have a pair of Clark's wedge sandals that I love (http://www.clarksusa.com/us/womens/wome ... p/26108737) because they're extravagantly padded, and the heel seems high but feels reasonable.

If you need to wear real high heels, you can get an insole from Superfeet (http://www.superfeet.com/en-us/insoles- ... -high-heel) designed to improve your balance and posture. They're not padded, but they work pretty well and I sometimes put padded insoles over them.

I worked a job that required high heels for years, and I have bad knees, so it could be quite problematic some days. I can walk in a 4" heel, but it's cumbersome because my feet are small, so that's a stretch. Put padding under the balls of your feet if you decide you feel the need for an evening in stilettos.

I dress very girly, and I mostly wear skirts, but I never wear dress shoes at all anymore, not even flats. In summer I wear sandals or slip-on sneakers in colors that match my outfits. In winter I wear riding boots or moto boots.

I can't walk in heels, and I have too many back problems to wear them even if I could. My ankles twist too easily. I only wear flat shoes, or shoes with a very low, wide heel. I also can't wear things like skimmers or loafers, because they hurt my toes. Even a flat dress shoe feels to me like a torture device.

Women who wear heels or other fashion shoes often end up with serious foot problems, like bunions or hammertoes. It's not worth it.

I hate high heels and stileto's I am uncoordinated and scared to break my ankle.

I'm returning my high heels. Maybe if I got them for an important engagement it would have been worth the effort to try to learn to walk in them, but they aren't for that kind of reason so back to Amazon.

How odd. I went to Amazon to print the return UPS label and it said that a return would be credited and I don't have to return the shoes. Why is that?

I think it means it would cost them more to ship and restock the item than they could make selling it again. The same thing has happened to me-though not with shoes.

I am rather short so heels are quite out of the question for me, unless they are kitten heels. I however prefer flats that look good, and they save my feet to.

Most high heels aren't well engineered. I have had good luck with two brands: Dansko and Ecco - both Scandinavian.

Oddly enough, because of really tight ligaments, I can't wear flat shoes, I'm in agony if I wear flats. But I only need a really small heel (like you would find on a running shoe/ cross-trainer) to be ok.