Feminism

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I would consider myself either not a feminist or indifferent.

I consider myself a feminist.

I get really annoyed by women who constantly put men down. Where my partner works women can wear whatever casual clothing they want but the men all have to wear shirt and tie. Also they come out with things like "men are all useless because they can't multitask." I get equally annoyed by women who play up to the equal rights thing when it suits them, but then they still expect men to carry their bags for them and open doors for them, etc.

I am female but in many ways I just don't identify with other women. My interests have always been very masculine (from football and lego when I was a kid to listening to metal and doing weights in the gym) - and I have no desire to ever become a mother. I hate stereotypical gender roles - I have only in the past couple of years started to feel comfortable with wearing a bit of make up and reasonably feminine clothes, before I did everything I could to look and act like a man. I think a lot of that comes down to hating any form of male attention - I have no problem with other girls dressing "sexy" if they want to and every woman should have that choice but then they can't complain when men look at them as an object. I personally hate that, and I guess I just want to be on an equal level with men. I get really angry if anyone makes any reference to my gender and assumes things about me because I'm female. Nobody should be defined purely by their gender.

There is one aspect of modern feminism that I don't like, and that's when feminists turn their nose up at women that are stay at home mums or aren't working 12 hours a day. I find there is a lot of snobbery within the modern feminists and women that are spending more time parenting than working feel embarrassed about their occupation. And there are more women hiring nannys while they go off to work until late at night, and the nannys basically become the child/children's mum and not the actual mum herself.

I find the more recent the feminism (i.e. after it actually meant anything anymore) the more it looks like this:

I also extremely hate 'difference feminists'...The ones who push the idea of women as baby makers and nurturers, elevate these things as sacred, and see men as lesser because they don't give birth. VOMIT. They manage to be grossly unfair to both men and women. Men, because they treat them as lesser because they don't get pregnant and poop the baby out, and women because they reduce women to just wombs. They do it in a nice way, but damn. I'm a sentient girl with a mind and skills and opinions, not just a brood mare whose main job is to give birth and nurture.

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agree.
I have had far more women tell me that I'm somehow less than a "real" woman b/c I have chosen not to have children than men. Woman =/= mother; if it did, we wouldn't need two different words.

It sucks indeed. I hate the assumption that all women want kids and if you don't there must be something wrong with you.

Seriously the way people react when I say I don't want kids...They either express sadness and act as if there is something wrong with me, or get angry and imply that I'm being selfish.