on the basis that 'prevention is better than cure'- what help is he getting?
i know it can be really scarey seeing someone freak out?
i used to ahev terrible meltdowns on my parents all the time when i grew up. if some of the stressors could have been removed, i could have coped better. obviously not everything can, but little, culmative things like being on my own more, having blacked out windows hvae now made an improvement; i had to work it out myself.
i hate the idea of medication- out of over 40 people ive known to be medicated only one has a posative story to tell. compared with recreational drugs, i think are far more dangerous. ive seen them ruin people.
im glad ive avoided them.
you hvae to take something for up to 6 months to see what its doing , allow the side effects to settle down. then you can take up to 6 months to come off it, if its not working so- a year of being messed up? what's the point.
does he have a therapist? could you get them, or the aussie autism society to speak to his parents? and who would be medicating him? his therapist? it may not be as easy as tehy think to put him on something...
he should def try to work out what aspie stuff stresses him, and perhaps try an exclusion diet; this would all help him feel more calm, as would trying natural remedies; aromatherapy for example? exercise also is helpful sometimes; instead of wanting to thump people i used to smash about in the pool.
good luck- he's lucky to hvae you caring about him.