Todesking wrote:
I would laugh and save the death notice from the obituary in the newspaper.
Somebody who did something really bad to me when I was a child died several years ago, and I have kept the obituary. I often had thoughts of killing this person, in ways that were really cruel, painful, gruesome and (when I was thinking that way) extremely imaginative and amusing.
When I saw that he had died, I was very upset, for a long time. I say "upset" because I don't know what the emotion was - grief, released anger, deep sorrow, I have no idea. There was no relief, no happiness, no positive emotion of any kind at his death - but I did stop feeling bad about the thing he had done to me, over time.