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13 Aug 2009, 3:41 am

My mother knows it makes me uncomfortable, but she forces it on me, anyway. She'll want me to kiss her goodbye, and I get anxious, but do it, anyway. :(


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13 Aug 2009, 3:45 am

idiocratik wrote:
My mother knows it makes me uncomfortable, but she forces it on me, anyway. She'll want me to kiss her goodbye, and I get anxious, but do it, anyway. :(


Mine too! She'll just randomly open her arms and say "I KNOW YOU DON'T WANT TO, BUT GIVE ME A HUG!! !" :?



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13 Aug 2009, 4:50 am

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With me, it depends on who is doing the hugging and touching. Even when I'm upset, I don't really like strangers hugging me or touching my arm. A good looking guy is okay though ;)


I would rather not be touched by strangers of either gender. I prefer to get to know people before I have physical contact with them. Of course, one must learn to tolerate accidental bumping and touching. In a crowded place that cannot be avoided.

If being touched is very painful or uncomfortable, then one must avoid close contact with others. Stay away from crowds and elevators.

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13 Aug 2009, 5:17 am

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Don't call me an "aspie" or "autie", they're such stupid names.


My sinceerest apologies. I had no idea those names would offend.



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13 Aug 2009, 5:37 am

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I had that happen the other day -- some guy at the gas station was in line ahead of me and chatting up the cashier while I waited quietly. He turned around and reached out and laid his hand firmly on my shoulder and said something like, "Sorry to hold you up," before he left. I managed to keep a smile on my face and choke out something appropriate, but I'm sure I stiffened up. I don't know what he thought he was doing. He was probably just trying to be friendly in a touchy-feelie kind of way, but I really wished he hadn't.


I wonder if he reported back to his therapeutic touchy-feelie support group that he had got up the courage to touch somebody, and got a round of applause for it.



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13 Aug 2009, 5:43 am

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They're very huggy at my church, the women all hug, the men all shake your hand. This is supposed to be a good thing. When I sit back and look at it, it seems like a great thing, look at these friendly people, if a new person were to come here to attend church, how welcome they would feel, isn't it a good atmosphere... And I, content to continue attending, would rather they just keep their sweaty paws off me.


I don't understand why these practices continue in the face of that flu that's supposed to wipe us all out this fall. That, and the obligatory practice of shaking hands in business.



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13 Aug 2009, 7:23 am

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I like being hugged and touched by someone I now well, but I get panicky if a relative does it.


Haha,me either..Hugging a relative makes me feel uncomfortable


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13 Aug 2009, 10:04 pm

Honestly, it really depends on the person. There are certain people that make me feel really uncomfortable if they get to close to me or try to touch me (it will almost make me shutter if they do). I also really hate if someone pokes me or taps me especially on my shoulder or back.

On the other hand when I am around someone I feel comfortable with (or whom I like) I do not mind when they are very close to me, in fact sometimes I like it. I also love hugging, cuddling, and what not, I'm not sure why but sometimes it feels as if I could do it forever. I guess one's love for hugging, touching, and such really depends on their personality, views, and even what they may seek sensory wise.



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14 Aug 2009, 11:08 am

ruveyn wrote:
Tantybi wrote:
With me, it depends on who is doing the hugging and touching. Even when I'm upset, I don't really like strangers hugging me or touching my arm. A good looking guy is okay though ;)


I would rather not be touched by strangers of either gender. I prefer to get to know people before I have physical contact with them. Of course, one must learn to tolerate accidental bumping and touching. In a crowded place that cannot be avoided.

If being touched is very painful or uncomfortable, then one must avoid close contact with others. Stay away from crowds and elevators.

ruveyn


What about chemistry? Like sometimes, people are like magnets. Some people I push away. Some that I'm attracted to, I tend to just cling without meaning to. All this happens without knowing anything about the person. I'm just wondering if there are people you feel that cling without getting to know them well.


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14 Aug 2009, 11:09 am

In terms of whether Auties and Aspies don't like being touched or hugged? Well, this all depends upon the individual as, there are a great many people in the spectrum whom tend to be hyper-sensitive as, they call it and sincerely can't stand to be touched,hugged,etc.. Though on the otherside of that equation so are there individuals whom like to hug or express a fondness of touch in that manner of such..Personally, I'm not fond of being huggged however, I'll make exemptions to that at times when necessary otherwise, I simply choose not to be hugged. I'm not someone whom is devoid of emotional content, merely find it hard to relate to someone on that level at times..



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14 Aug 2009, 4:14 pm

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I hate being touched lightly by another person, however I love giving and getting hugs. :O)


Me too :D I love getting hugs :hug:


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14 Aug 2009, 6:49 pm

I think it's just best to assume they DON'T like to be touched. But I guess I might be a bit extreme in that I'll yell or hide from people who try or succeed in touching me.



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14 Aug 2009, 7:09 pm

My AS son is a sensory seeker in the way of touch. Meaning, he LOVES hugs. Too much so.


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14 Aug 2009, 8:12 pm

i do not like being touched for any reason that i did not ask for it



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14 Aug 2009, 8:18 pm

I absolutely hate it, even if I know the person. Touch of any kind makes my skin crawl.


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14 Aug 2009, 11:16 pm

DW_a_mom wrote:
My AS son is a sensory seeker in the way of touch. Meaning, he LOVES hugs. Too much so.

I remember running around trying to kiss and hug all of my peers when I was four. I just thought that's what you did with people you knew. I still remember the, "Eww, don't let him touch me!" comments. My response was to chase after them!

I also remember a little older when my uncle didn't want me to kiss him goodnight. I didn't understand this at all, but I shrugged it off and just figured he had issues. I was maybe 10 at the time.

To this day, I am a very huggy person.


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