Do ALL Aspies or Auties dislike bieing hugged or touched?

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I don't mind being touched as long as I can see it coming. My friend once snuck behind me between classes one day, and tapped me on the shoulder: I responded by turning around and hitting him in the stomach with a palm strike. He was ok and I didnt get in trouble, but after that he made sure not to touch me unless I could see him.

I generally don't like any affection unless it's from a significant other (and I haven't had one of those in 5 years).

If I really, really, really (insert another billion or so "really"s here) like someone, then I will want physical contact with them. Otherwise, I dislike being touched.
I hate light touch; it burns (gentle is fine, but there has to be at least some pressure; if something is just brushing against my skin, it hurts).
I also hate being touched without warning.

I usually don't like being touched. Whenever my mom or someone insists on hugging me, i kind of go stiff and they say "put your arms around me!" I can tolerate it, but it makes me uncomfortable. At my sister's wedding one of my relatives that doesn't really know me very well hugged me, and he asked my dad later if i didn't like him for some reason or if he had offended me because i seemed really uptight when he tried to hug me, and dad was just basically like "oh, that's just how she is with EVERYONE, it's not you," lol. I don't really like the contact involved in shaking hands either, but i do it anyway. A few times i've even initiated a handshake or high-five if i thought it was appropriate to the situation. Those are things i can prepare myself for better than something like a hug where they want to get themselves right up on you. I reallly hate being bumped in a crowd or when someone sneaks up on me. Someone i know at work has snuck up behind me a couple times and grabbed my shoulders, but i keep telling her not to do it. It wouldn't bother me so much if i wasn't always already a little stressed just from being at work. I am sensitive to certain feelings, but i don't feel any kind of pain or burning from being touched.. The contact with another person is what i think makes me uncomfortable(don't mind it with non-human animals one bit!).. And if i'm not expecting it it's because of the shock or surprise, i guess. My parents say that when i was a little kid i didn't mind hugs and stuff, though. It's weird, i dunno. But this is one of the reasons that my mom first suspected that i might have AS before i even knew what AS was... Because, aside from the social deficits and obsessions, she heard at some point that a lot of AS people don't like being touched, lol.

My mother knows it makes me uncomfortable, but she forces it on me, anyway. She'll want me to kiss her goodbye, and I get anxious, but do it, anyway.

Honestly, it really depends on the person. There are certain people that make me feel really uncomfortable if they get to close to me or try to touch me (it will almost make me shutter if they do). I also really hate if someone pokes me or taps me especially on my shoulder or back.

On the other hand when I am around someone I feel comfortable with (or whom I like) I do not mind when they are very close to me, in fact sometimes I like it. I also love hugging, cuddling, and what not, I'm not sure why but sometimes it feels as if I could do it forever. I guess one's love for hugging, touching, and such really depends on their personality, views, and even what they may seek sensory wise.

In terms of whether Auties and Aspies don't like being touched or hugged? Well, this all depends upon the individual as, there are a great many people in the spectrum whom tend to be hyper-sensitive as, they call it and sincerely can't stand to be touched,hugged,etc.. Though on the otherside of that equation so are there individuals whom like to hug or express a fondness of touch in that manner of such..Personally, I'm not fond of being huggged however, I'll make exemptions to that at times when necessary otherwise, I simply choose not to be hugged. I'm not someone whom is devoid of emotional content, merely find it hard to relate to someone on that level at times..

I think it's just best to assume they DON'T like to be touched. But I guess I might be a bit extreme in that I'll yell or hide from people who try or succeed in touching me.