Any body else excited/relieved by their Dx?

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I was relieved when I got my diagnosis. I knew other people liked to socialize but I was always so drained from being around people.

I've only been diagnosed recently (I'm 30). It was a relief to find an answer to what I'd spent a lot of time and money searching for, it also made me feel that I won't be so hard on myself in certain situations in the future.

But it also left me scared. Realising it is only manageable and not curable. Knowing I can't be the person I want to be is a disapointing.

I was also in a daze for a while after the dx.

you can. it's just harder for you.

Hi Spazzergasm,

I keep meaning to ask, with your signature, are you a vegetarian?

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But it also left me scared. Realising it is only manageable and not curable. Knowing I can't be the person I want to be is a disapointing.


Just be sure it is who you want to be, not who others want you to be.

I felt very relieved too when I was diagnosed. I was diagnosed in my twenties. The diagnosis explained so many things. I finally got answers to questions that had been on my mind since I was a little kid. It was good to finally understand so many things about myself and my life.

I didn't feel much excitement. Just a lot of relief. It wasn't until I found Wrong Planet that I became excited, because I had finally found a lot of people I could relate to and didn't feel as alone anymore.

Maybe that's it - my wife told me about this place this past week.

agreed. I've worked very hard to act differently, to be the type of person I think everybody likes: I am now at a place in my life where a) I can admit that it is a very hard, lonely and isolating way to live, b) am wanting to explore who I really am and c) wishing I had had the courage I have now to be me way earlier in my life.

This may not be so good on my marriage, but it feels right. And maybe being who I really am may help my marriage. Who knows.

I don't give a s**t about other people's opinions on how strange I am.


I DO care about my social impairment and the difficulty and frustration is has caused me.

I DO care about being mentally exhausted because I have to rely almost entirely on my intellect due to my limited social intuition.

I am changing to become a more complete and happier person and that is the ONLY person I want to be.

This is exactly how I've lived my life. Just neat myself up for never getting it right.

nope! i just really love meat.

Yea.. that. Besides the fact that there aren't autism resources around here, if I went to one professional who said I didn't have it and another who diagnosed me with it, I'd be way less sure about having it than I am now, just knowing that I meet the diagnostic criteria and that it explains everything that's been unexplained about me my whole life.
The therapist I was seeing for a little while thought it was silly that an adult would want to get a diagnosis, when there are no resources to help adults with the disorder anyway. While I thought an awful lot of the things that therapist said were pretty silly themselves, that actually does make sense. She asked what it would do for me. Given that I have no faith in psychological testing after the psychologist who said I must be a horrible, disturbed person for seeing a campfire in an inkblot.. I don't think any amount of psychological testing would make me sure of anything at all. In other words: A diagnosis wouldn't make me sure I had it. All it would do would be satisfy a few people on here. Lying would accomplish the same thing, I just don't want to do that. Of course, for all I know, the people who say that only a professional diagnosis means anything aren't even professionally diagnosed themselves.

It's a common feeling amongst people diagnosed later in life. I was diagnosed at about 36 and it's sort of (slowly) explaining everything for me. For the past four years, I've been re-evaluating my life and I feel much better about it.

I can understand how people diagnosed younger (Spokane_Girl for instance) might not feel any relief. I doubt you would have felt relief at 12, since that's about the worst age to be diagnosed at. Right when you're already feeling insecure.

That's what my dad says. "No, you're not a failure, things are just harder for you than they are for other people." Doesn't make me any less of a failure. I don't even have a real diagnosis. Just that it's "harder for me."

you can reverse the failure though.
and i highly doubt you are a failure. no one is. i mean, you have a life, and a computer, and people you can talk to, dont you?

I wasn't really excited when I was diagnosed, more of a feeling of intrigue and wonder. It was a discovery and I wanted to know all I could about myself. Now I think I know just about everything, which can be both a positive and a negative. I somehow prefered life when I was still ignorant.