Todesking wrote:
Have people ever showed you hostility for not hanging out with them after work? This has happened at both of the jobs I worked. At first, before co-workers get to know how weird I am, I get invited by the co-workers to hang out after work. I always refuse but say no politely. I usually say I do not drink or lie and say I have a part time job after work which sometimes works. But they always see me walking to the store or see me in the store at the times I am supose to be working the part time job.
I really do not want to be around drunk people or go to strip joints to have some skanky chick to rub up on me. I'd rather be hated by the co-workers then have them see how stange I am if I am put into these situations. I know if I explained my situation to those people the abuse would have been worst to try to get me to quit. I saw them do it to some new strange employee who talked to himself. He quit after they picked on him so much. These same co-workers teased me but it was not something I could not handle. My resteraunt job had a union and I was able to take action but the the machine shop job was a small operation with about 12 workers.
I never got invited to go anywhere with coworkers, but, I notice this happening with family members and to a lesser extent, neighbors. Neighbors tend to resent me for staying away from them and avoiding, but I absolutely refuse to ever get involved with them. From my point of view, I am avoiding trouble by avoiding them, since I don't want to get involved with their petty politics and bs. From their point of view, I must be up to no good because I work so hard to avoid them. Still, it's far less stressful avoiding them and dealing with their suspicion than getting involved with their high stress bs.