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I am about the level of a 10 year old, and I am SOOOO sick of people expecting me to have the emotions, tastes, and wants and needs of an adult....

I REALLY dont!

I am actually debating cutting all of my hair off so I look more like a boy because I am so sick and tired of being sexualized, and I just want people to be my friends for who I am as a person and to do crafts and things together, and am sick of people wanting to hang out with me because of what I look like...

Girls allways want to hang out with me so they can get guys easier, like they want a wing man, or someone to drink or go to the bar with, and guys wanna hang with me for more sinister reasons....

If I cut all of my hair off and stop wearing make-up, maybe I can find more people who just like arts and crafts and animals, and won't try to force me to be an adult, or watch shows that are too adult for me, or try to get me to in anyway care about their adult like conversations.

Now that I am finally on my own again, I really just want to never be looked at as a woman ever again, just as a person, and for my talents and hobbies, and that is IT.

I'd like to thank you for pointing that out, because I'm also incontinent as well. A lot of people see incontinent people as people who can't think or control their actions. I'm also HFA/AS. Autism is a spectrum. Each person on the spectrum has their own cluster of challenges. Anybody on the spectrum can have trouble with anything. There are also a lot if intelligent and successful people who are incontinent as well. I'm not going to go into that, though. The OP started a thread about it in another section of WP once and it really ticked me off.

Mom says i'm like having a 2,22 and 44 year old wraped into one person.

My best friend once said it was like sometimes I am a shining, four year old child, and other times I am this sardonic, ironic 40 year old woman.

She's likely right, who else watches (good) preschool programing in the early morning and grandpa's political programing at night. I suppose i'm child like at times but a perpetual adult child, no I ain't.

Would you be lying to people though? If yes, would you be able to live with that even if you found it less annoying socially?

Lately I've been thinking that maybe I'm a few years younger than my physical age. Not in all aspects but I'm 19 and the way my attitudes and values have been changing it seems like I'm going through the rebellious phase most NTs go through around age 16 or 17. Suddenly things appeal to me that never would've appealed to me before and they're not socially acceptable.

I'm not an adult baby but it seems like I'm going through some kind of rebellious phase at a slightly later date than what is normal.

What do you mean by lying??? How??? By wanting to look less pretty??

LMAO!! !! That is me totally..... when 911 happened, I was on treehouse chanel 24/7 and was watching the teletubbies, and I didn't have a child yet at that time, those shows just made me feel happier, cause adult stuff was too heavy for me..... haha

I still watch kid shows. I still get excited like a child and I still prefer sweets. My husband says I am like a child just by my attitude and how I act and see the world. How I show my emotions. Plus my anxiety makes me act real childish when it happens. I even look like I am having tantrums when I am not. My husband has described them as a toddler having one. He will say I am like a child under age ten or like a toddler to my teens. Then I am like a grown up. Sometimes I will still buy toys and then I tend to not open them because they were vintage and never been opened. None of this has nothing to do with me being an adult baby but my husband likes to connect it to all that. My ex boyfriend did it as an insult and would put me down for it and acted like I was ret*d because of what I liked and my quirks and how I functioned.

last coulpe posts are perfect, I sometimes wonder why I do this and the best I have come up with is i'm using my child like traits to emotionly counter balance my behond my years traits(that can be very depressing), im I crazy? The thing is I never really was all that childish in meny ways when I was the age of one, nor did I ever relate to the other children.

Wow you are a lot like me......I also have the childish traits you described ( getting frustrated and upset in a childish way, buying toys (although I open them-I have a collection of dollar store stuffed animals) and watching preschool cartoons. Also I had an ex-husband who used to put me down for these things and call me ret*d. I'm glad you found a new and better husband now.

Like someone once said, Why stop playing with toys when you become an adult?, now that you actually have the money to buy them! too true.

I love my vintage 1980/90's RC car collection(one of my intrests), not getting rid of my plush animal collection either, don't care what sociaty says its my property and I like it and can become valuble too over time.

+1

That and being "socially awkward" means people think we respond to situations with a child-like simplicity...failing to appreciate the complexities of human interaction. That's not always so...we might comprehend it but not process it fast enough to appropriately respond when we should.

Mine never called me ret*d, he just said I was a baby and the tone he would say it in was different. I realize now it was a mocking voice. Plus he would say things like "You should have been playing that ten years ago" implying I am too old for it and it's something I should have been playing ten years ago and then have outgrown it. Even he thought lot of movies I had were childish and video games I had. Then he said he thinks I am a 24/7 adult baby and then he said I am 18/7 after I argued with him about it pointing out unchildish things I do. he just needed someone who was more mature than me is all so perhaps he needs a normal woman. Not someone who has autism or other disabilities that causes childish behavior or someone who isn't childlike. You don't need to have any disabilities to have childlike interests.

My husband will call me a baby or a little girl or a kid but he means it in a different way. He isn't mocking me when he says it. Sometimes he says he two kids. It was the same for my mother too. In our old neighborhood, some neighbors would tease her about having four children instead of three because of my dad. He is a bit immature too but he doesn't have autism. Also my husband isn't critical about what I do.

I suppose the rub is what we do is not socitally exceptable/age approprate and we just don't ever see it, nor do we care. we know what we like and have a different scence of appereation then the others and becouse of that i'm not ashamed of being child like, it feels natural and the others will just have to deal with it and yes I get told all the time to grow up by my 11/13 year old NT brothers. Times like that i'm glad I can't understand socity becouse it makes no scence and I don't want to join it if it means sticking to such arbertery rules for "just becouse" reasons.