Here's what I find evil about socialization
I think capitalism can be cruel, abusive and neglectful to a lot of people, including but not just those with disabilities. But I personally also like to look at individuals. I know people who are selfless and my husband and I have also done some very selfless acts as well with no other motive or reason other than to help the person who needed it and we genuinely wanted nor expected anything in return. I consider that societies are made up of individuals and when I think about society I also have to think about individuals. Some are really wonderful and others are evil and most have the ability to be both wonderful and evil in different ways. I know I can be like that. I just find it a bit difficult to make generalizations about everyone. Just my opinion.
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I live in the suburbs of New York CIty and work in midtown Manhattan--one of the great centers of global capitalism. The city has a reputation, based in movies and television more than reality, for cruelty and alienation. But the 8 or so million people in the city and roughly 20 million in the metropolitan area are for the most part kind, decent and considerate. They help lost children and little old ladies. They donate to food banks and winter coat drives. They volunteer to build housing for the homeless and poor and are regularly polite in the tremendous crush of daily commerce.
Though the city has an enormous police force, there is simply no way they could maintain order if the majority of citizens did not restrain themselves out of some basic sense of decent behavior.
People like to concentrate on and mythologize a few negative incidents and come to believe that those incidents (or the distorted images of them) are representative of the whole, but it just is not so. The there are an estimated 90-100 thousand people in this area with autism. For the most part we are neither being stoned to death by neighbors, pushed out of boats or living solely on the kindness of government institutions. For the most part autistic people around here get by on their family and social networks, however limited those may be. There are many, many bullies in the area, too--but it's just False to claim that bullying is socially accepted, approved behavior and everyone who is different is willingly sacrificed by the herd.
Though the city has an enormous police force, there is simply no way they could maintain order if the majority of citizens did not restrain themselves out of some basic sense of decent behavior.
People like to concentrate on and mythologize a few negative incidents and come to believe that those incidents (or the distorted images of them) are representative of the whole, but it just is not so. The there are an estimated 90-100 thousand people in this area with autism. For the most part we are neither being stoned to death by neighbors, pushed out of boats or living solely on the kindness of government institutions. For the most part autistic people around here get by on their family and social networks, however limited those may be. There are many, many bullies in the area, too--but it's just False to claim that bullying is socially accepted, approved behavior and everyone who is different is willingly sacrificed by the herd.
You know I agree with this to a certain extent, you really can focus too much on the problem. However, that doesn't mean the problem isn't real. Ask people on this forum how many times they have been targeted in front of a group and how many times any member of the group stood up for them. My guess from what I've read here is that the first number will be high, the second low. To shut up and ignore that doesn't help anything either.
I also believe that many people get bullied not just Autists. We may be easy targets but I have been bullied because of reasons that have nothing to do with Autism and I know people who have been bullied who are NTs as well.
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"I'm bad and that's good. I'll never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me."
Wreck It Ralph
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"I'm bad and that's good. I'll never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me."
Wreck It Ralph
Well I agree with you that we should all find happiness where we can. (Too bad I'm so uncoordinated, or I could try your ski thing)!
Well I agree with you that we should all find happiness where we can. (Too bad I'm so uncoordinated, or I could try your ski thing)!
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"I'm bad and that's good. I'll never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me."
Wreck It Ralph
besides, it causes people to die.
People die anyways if they can no longer cope with life and realize nobody really cares. They kill themselves so what - nobody notices, life goes on business as usual. If you kill yourself you're just a loser who couldn't cope with life. You're just a weakling who could be brushed off and discarded from the system. Nobody notices. Maybe you get put in the hospital on suicide watch. But they don't want to keep you forever so they'll just kick you out again. You're just an annoyance. If you can't contribute to the machine called Capitalism you're a burden to be discarded. I'm not talking about just autism but other even more serious mental illnesses like severe depression, schizophrenia, PTSD. These people are often left to rot on the street or wind up killing themselves in the greedy "Pure Capitalist" society so many Americans seem to have a raging hard on for. Nobody wants to get treatment for people if they can't milk money off them for the pharmaceutical industry. It's all very sick but "normal" people who are insulated from it all bury their heads in the sand and pat themselves on the back over how generous they are. Because they donate to a food bank? Why the f**k do people have to rely on random donated food in the first place?! ! Why isn't there a mechanism to make sure all people can be included as functional members of society?! !! Why are people shuffled through a system of unfeeling stony faced bureaucrats and basically told they are worthless s**t!! !
besides, it causes people to die.
People die anyways if they can no longer cope with life and realize nobody really cares. They kill themselves so what - nobody notices, life goes on business as usual. If you kill yourself you're just a loser who couldn't cope with life. You're just a weakling who could be brushed off and discarded from the system. Nobody notices. Maybe you get put in the hospital on suicide watch. But they don't want to keep you forever so they'll just kick you out again. You're just an annoyance. If you can't contribute to the machine called Capitalism you're a burden to be discarded. I'm not talking about just autism but other even more serious mental illnesses like severe depression, schizophrenia, PTSD. These people are often left to rot on the street or wind up killing themselves in the greedy "Pure Capitalist" society so many Americans seem to have a raging hard on for. Nobody wants to get treatment for people if they can't milk money off them for the pharmaceutical industry. It's all very sick but "normal" people who are insulated from it all bury their heads in the sand and pat themselves on the back over how generous they are. Because they donate to a food bank? Why the f**k do people have to rely on random donated food in the first place?! ! Why isn't there a mechanism to make sure all people can be included as functional members of society?! !! Why are people shuffled through a system of unfeeling stony faced bureaucrats and basically told they are worthless sh**! !!
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But again, you're missing the point about the herd, that it's an analogy. Humans engaging in herd behavior is more social than making life and death decisions, but it can be about getting jobs or something that can lead to life and death decisions. Besides, I would bet that if 6 people were on a boat in the ocean and they had to dump one over, the Aspie would go first. Sorry, but I'm that cynical.
So my question - say we drop the herd thing altogether - do you think we are wrong in saying that society decides if you are one of them and if it finds you are not, it rejects you. Not every member of society, but you were to think about how society functions as a whole, do you disagree?
It's one thing to point out rejection and bullying. It's another to try to make excuses for it and naturalize it by misusing concepts such as evolution.
I don't think it really has anything to do with evolution although I guess it could. It has to do with group think/herd mentality, but like i said, it's different in humans than other animals. Evolution is about survival of the species, but group think is about survival of the group against all else.
I think humans are also kind of weird in that we do so many things that at least to me seem to go against propagation of the species. But that's a whole other topic!
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This is probably going to upset a few people, but being selfish is one of the negative traits of Autism / Aspergers. I hate having it pointed out to me so I can see how it might upset some people, but we do tend to be self centred. This tends to make us view the world as being selfish because it's human nature to project our own personalities onto other people. We see an act of kindness and automatically assume there is a selfish reason for it, instead of accepting it for what it is. This doesn't mean we are incapable of being kind and giving, just that we tend to put ourselves at the centre of our little universe and everyone one else at the periphery. And every Aspie is of course different and unique, but it is unfortunately a recognised trait of Autism to be ego-centric.
We also have a tendency to favour logic over emotion, and will have the tendency to look at human behaviour as a logical thing that can be explained by scientific theory. Most people don't see logic as having a place in human relationships the way we do - they see it as cold and unfeeling. This doesn't make them evil or bad, just different to us. But it can make them feel alienated from us because our point of view makes them feel uncomfortable. And their emotional personalities can seem aggressive and overpowering to us because there is no logic to it. But to hate NT's because they don't fit your logic is in itself illogical.
I will say and do things that make sense to me from a logistical point of view, my NT wife will complain that what I want to do is wrong because it is not the 'loving' thing to do. Neither approach is wrong, and we often meet in the middle to create a solution that has best of both worlds. Working on the assumption that NT interactions are automatically evil is a very poor way to go through life. Most workplaces are designed to be competitive, because that is the best way to achieve efficiency in a modern company. Judging people who are just trying to survive in an unnatural environment is a bit unfair really (and most workplaces are unnatural places for a human to be). Take those people out of the workplace and see them at home and you will often see a completely different side to the story, a much more loving and caring side.
So no, being like an NT is not equivalent to being evil, just not compatible with who we are.
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