Is this the right or wrogn way to handle disabled kids?

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So a woman wrote a letter to a man who yelled in the theatre because her mentally challenged son was making a kind of noise he did not like. The vast majority of the comments agree that this would count as an unreasonable accommodation for those suffering from mental defects of any kind. And that this not the right way to address the issues of raising disabled children.

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I think that guy was being louder than the kid was which is hypocritical & never helps.

I don't want to be an a**hole but I'm sorry if you're kid is going to scream and cry or excessively laugh and giggle throughout the movie over unrelated things.....like not laughing at bits of the movie but disrupting everyone to laugh at something funny their sibling does for instance don't bring them to the theater.

If I pay near 20 bucks to go see a movie I want to see and hear the movie not a couple little kids fooling around and giggling throughout the movie....let alone a baby or kid screaming and crying. If your kids aren't able to watch a movie without being disruptive probably best not to take them to the movie theater yet. Even if its a disabled kid now I don't think it would be appropriate to start yelling/screaming at someone about their child being disruptive...but I don't think it would be unreasonable to suggest they take their child and leave if the child cannot be calm or is too hyperactive to sit and watch a movie without making a bunch of noise and moving around, walking about to switch seats or things like that.

I mean there are times I can remember when me and my siblings where so high energy we would have been far to disruptive to take to the theater....those days the park or something where we could run around was a better fit.

I just assumed the guy in the theater was an ass until I read the comments and got a different perspective.

Some parents of special needs kids feel entitled so they think everyone has to put up with their kid when they are disruptive or do inappropriate things. My mom still took responsibility about me. It's not just SN parents that do it, parents of normal kids do this too so they bring them to places that are inappropriate and then complain about "as*holes" who complained or gave them looks because of how their kids were acting. I have no problem with parents bringing their kids to higher rated movies or to nice restaurants just as long as they are behaved because it depends on the child but if you have a kid that can't sit still, can't keep quiet, etc. then you shouldn't bring them there. My parents took us to a fancy restaurant when I was six for Mother's Day and we were perfect because mom had trained my brothers and me how to act in a restaurant by taking us to McDonalds and throwing away our food every time we broke a rule and it took her three tries to break us.

It may have been a Disney movie but the movies that are out now are for higher audience than for small children according to the comments. i don't go to movies anymore (too pricey) so I don't keep up with them. It's the Redbox for me.

But I wasn't there so I can't say if the parent was the as*hole or the guy in the theater.

There's such a thing as theatre etiquette. If you are a disruption to the performance (cancer surviving baby or not) you should leave. The blogger seems to think that doing this somehow invalidates her son's worth, but I disagree. It's simply a matter of politeness.

If a child is laughing in a way that distracts you from the movie, you can get up and change seats. If the child's laughing is so loud and continuous that it disturbs people who are not even sitting near him, then he should be taken out of the theater. Whether he is disabled or not doesn't really factor into this.

I don't like any disruption in the cinema, whether it's little kids, disabled kids, or chattering teenagers. Little kids just don't sit still. I remember when me and my boyfriend went to see a movie, a few people came in with a load of kids between them, and half the people (I don't know if they were parents or any other members of the family) sat in one row and the other half sat in the row behind, even though there was more than enough seats for them all to sit together. So throughout the whole movie these kids kept on switching rows because they couldn't make their mind up who they wanted to sit with, and we had to keep standing up to let them by, and the parents didn't even make them be seated in one seat and stay there for the whole movie. I get easily distracted and agitated anyway, so I found it hard to concentrate on the movie. I could tell my boyfriend was getting annoyed with them too, but everybody including us are afraid to say anything to parents of little kids these days because we're the ones that would be ''making a scene'', because their defense would be ''they're just children, they can't help it''. No, that is not an excuse.

I suppose disabled children are a little harder to chastise or be taught how to sit still and behave, even kids with ADHD and things like that. But I suppose people won't stand for any disruption in a cinema, whether the child is disabled or not. With a disabled child or adult, I don't get so annoyed even if they are being disruptive, but the majority of children need to be taught and disciplined. When I was a kid, I was made to sit or stand quietly, and it worked, even though I was a restless child. These days a lot of parents just let their kids do what they want.

I think it's hard to say without hearing her child. I think people with special needs should have the same rights as other people; I don't think they should be allowed to break rules though, especially not at the expense of others.

Her child may have been of an equal volume as other kids, but had a weird laugh. Having a weird laugh is not against the rules. In this case, she was right.

But if her child was louder than others, then that is against the rules. And she was wrong.

I can't possibly decide without hearing what her child was doing. I do know however, that I would never in a million years take my kids to a regular screening at a cinema because they would be way too loud. While I have compassion for why my kids would be loud, I don't think that reason gives them the right to break the rules in the cinema. We just watch movies where there those rules are not there.