My parents don't understand my aspergers

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I feel really unlucky when it comes to my mental health. I have had to live with Aspergers by myself until this year (I am now 16 years old). My parents think I play up because I want to me rebellious or want my own way. My friends like to tell me to do the wrong thing because it's funny. I read that girls are better in social situations than boys (statistically). Everyone thought I was a strange person. My parents can't even admit that I am autistic. I went to the doctors a month ago and the doctor was a specialist in autism. He said he believes I have autism but he didn't diagnose me. BUT MY PARENTS WONT SPEAK OF IT. They haven't said a word about it since. They pretend it's some terrible disease that is embarrassing for them.

My parents still don't, but I think they might be learning more through my little nephew. Unfortunately, it's a reflection of the world at large.

I'm sorry they don't want to believe you. I hope that in time, they come around.

When I was your age, Asperger's wasn't known about, and my parents were frustrated with me for having ridiculous problems that made no sense, for someone as 'smart' as me. They were certain I was behaving strangely in an attempt to manipulate them (into doing what, I'm not sure! )

Now they finally understand, and realize all the things I've struggled with my whole life are not my fault. It took them a while to come to grips with it, but I hope in time your parents will accept your diagnosis as well.

It is terrible when parents are like that and it happens a lot. They act like it's a reflection on them and will effect their status etc. They are in denial and there probably is not much you can do about their attitude. Hopefully they will accept things for what they are eventually.

This is true....

This is very unfortunate; my family acknowledges that I am indeed strange, but they say things like- you're not "autistic" with disgust, but then in the same breathe say things such as "try not to be so much of a freak" or the perennially popular "can't you be more normal?"
It sucks- I have yet to find a solution to this however. I can only let you know that- when you find people that acknowledge you for who you are, and accept that life feels more comfortable and it's a platitude, but it does in fact get better.