Anyone else tend to do nothing all day?

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It's been interesting to read everyone's replies. Just goes to show the diversity of everyone on the spectrum though it definitely seems like struggling to be productive is a common problem for many of us!

I really have to be interested in something to do it and seek immediate gratification which is completely unhelpful for me. I wonder how many NTs are like this and to this extent! I wish I had been diagnosed earlier so strategies to teach deferred gratification had been put in place. I didn't come from a structured him environment either which can't have helped. It's all up to me now which is very hard to deal with but it's either deal with it or be miserable I suppose!

I have the same feeling. I feel un-motivated to do stuff. I actually made a post about it. If there's no reason to do it or doesn't benefit me in the end then why do it?

I have to lie down a lot throughout the day. I feel that I spend a lot more time lying down than most people do. When my mind becomes overwhelmed, lying down and reading a book helps me to become recharged. This is one of the biggest challenges to working in a regular job for me. I need time to lie down and recover from things.

Other than go to doctors appointments, I just sit around all day. Too sick to do anything else. My life is extremely boring and uninteresting.

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short fat bald ugly man says:

with the exception of going on walks, grocery store, library, and other mundane things like that, i am just like you. otherwise, i surf the internet. playing online puzzles and hangman does little to slow down the rapid reduction of my IQ score. and it was never high to begin with.

graduated school (BA, cognitive science) 10 years ago. 2.1 gpa. not high enough to apply for grad schools. only for grad schools with no gpa quota. and those tend to be private schools and expensive.

worked a couple minimum wage jobs. got fired. more than once. wasted a lot of time applying for jobs. got ignored, rejected.

but whatever. exciting is not necessarily a bad thing. getting raped is exciting.

besides i am not an interesting person. big deal. that is not a choice or a crime or a mental illness.



the other thing, though. is that those precious little "people" that act like they are constantly in a hurry. one hand on steering wheel, one hand on phone. mouth open. (rolls eyes). driving like self-important precious little "people".

big deal.

maybe they grossly overestimate their importance.

yes, they do things that are relatively productive. but whatever. maybe they are not as awesome as they act.

For a couple of years I did nothing all day but sit at home and listen to music. Disability pension (bipolar exacerbated at times by autism).

Sitting at home leads to boredom. Boredom allows the mind time to ruminate about all the crap in life. Ruminating about all the crap in life worsens depression. How to get off this merry-go-round from Hades?

For me, when I was feeling well enough to face people I decided to do some voluntary work. Now spending three mornings a week helping out at the local library. Routine, familiar people, quiet working environment (in the back room), a sense of contributing to the community.

The fear of failure is a dilemma for perfectionists. I have failed so much that I, too, have given up trying, avoiding anything that is remotely challenging or stress inducing. Ironically, this makes me feel like a failure as well. Not quite sure how to deal with this. I can't change my lack of perfection, so need to work on changing self-expectations. Easier said than done.

I nap a lot when at home on my own all day. I love napping. It's a way to escape from all the stress life throws at me. I put on a DVD, get into bed, watch about 20-40 minutes of the DVD and fall asleep while it's on. It's usually The Simpsons because that's the best thing to nap to, for some reason.

But I have learnt that doing all the housework in the morning then napping after lunch is much better, because you can relax without feeling guilty of not doing the housework.

I guess it depends on what you classify as "nothing".

Without a structured regime (going to school, work etc.), I spend most of my time playing the PS4, posting comments on forums, walking around my town aimlessly and 'zoning out'. Whilst strictly speaking it isn't nothing, it's hardly a productive and meaningful lifestyle.

My routine at the moment seems to be:

8:30-9 - Wake up, get washed & dressed
9:15 - Eat breakfast (always gluten free cornflakes), drink a cup of tea and take an array of minerals and vitamins
9:45 - Play Far Cry Primal on my PS4
11:30 - Walk my dog
12:15 - Mindlessly surf the web whilst snacking
13:30 - Pick up some groceries for my mother
14:30 - Eat lunch (sometimes more gluten free cornflakes) and drink tea
15:00 - Housework
15:30 - Listen to my mother's difficulties with her malignant boss
16:00 - Play the PS4 again
17:00 - Zone out or read
18:00 - Mindlessly surf the web again
19:00 - Eat dinner
20:00 - Take my dog for a short walk
20:15 - Zone out, surf the web or play the PS4
21:30 - Go to sleep after brushing my teeth and taking medication

I must be the most boring 26 year old in the world. My life is utterly tedious.

I don't have a daily routine, more of a weekly routine.

Monday
I get up at 7, go to work, finish in afternoon, come home and have a nap, eat dinner, then see my aunt. Then I go to bed about 10ish.

Tuesday
My rest day. I usually just spend Tuesdays hanging out at home, with my mum. Still nap in the afternoon, have dinner, chill out with family, have a long soak in the bath and then go to bed about 10ish.

Wednesday
I get up at 7, go to work, get the bus straight to my boyfriend's after work, spend the evening chilling with him then soak in the bath, then both go to bed about 9ish.

Thursday
I usually look around the shops before getting the bus back home (sometimes I may meet up with a friend). Then I usually nap when I get home, have dinner, chill with family, have a bath then go to bed about 10ish.

Friday
I get up at 7, go to work, come home in afternoon and have a nap, have dinner, socialise with more family and friends of family (they usually visit on a Friday), have a long soak in the bath then go to bed at 10ish.

Saturday
I wake up whenever I'm ready, get the bus to see my boyfriend, usually meet up with a friend on the way, spend the evening and night with my boyfriend, soak in the bath, go to bed about 9ish.

Sunday
Me and my boyfriend use this day to spend together and go out for lunch or something, then he comes back to my house for a while then goes back home. Sunday is the only day he has off work.

That's my weekly routine.

I guess it's better than what I did for approximately 3 years....

I would spend hours in front of the internet, eat junk food continuosly and then run around in circles until I had eclipsed 15,000 steps.

How I wasn't diagnosed with autism until 18 months ago is still a mystery to me.

Personally I am envious of Joe90's routine. To be in a relationship whilst working for a living is something that eludes many on the spectrum, I suspect.

I mostly just stay in the house and do what I usually do, like surfing the web, drawing, playing games and watching some nostalgic videos. It's mostly what I do in my free time, since I get really bored most of the time