Confused on how to help my child.....

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He is being tested later this month for Aspergers.

He does the following:
Facinated with Weather & the news....can talk for hours about it, more interested in talking to adults than kids, has problems making friends with kids his age, can memorize an entire movie (cars....it drives me nuts), can read a book front to back but having him comprehend it is another story, he has ADD but no hyperactivity, he is emotional, I could go on all day.....he's smart makes good grades (language is a struggle),


My problem is that he is so irritated right now.
Very emotional and he has never been this way before. He's been taking Vyvanse for about 2 months for ADD. (was on Adderall for 2 years)
He's fine one minute and the next he's non-responsive & ready to cry.

He has a hard time making eye contact.

I'm curious how I should deal until testing.....should I call his doc & blame his meds or hold out.

Welcome!

Usually the crying comes from extra stress, and may actually be related to bullying, or changes in a certain routine.

He shows familiar signs of AS. Such as knowing a story but not understanding it (part of a literal thinking process). Eye contact shouldn't be forced to be learnt if the child doesn't want to, as this can add even more stress into the situation. Aspie kids can tend to not be very lenient on opinions or changes in routine or what they want to do next.

Hope this helps somewhat.

He sounds about normal AS! Maybe you can get him into puzzles and movies that are somewhat educational. Help him build on his strengths!

He was being bullied in the past. he's very small for his age. he's 8 & is 4'2, 52 lbs.
His teacher is wonderful.....before I was aware of what was happening she took care of it. She calls me once a week to let me know how everything is. I really couldn't ask for anyone better.

She cares about him and wants him to do well. She's working on getting him to open up. He takes Taekwondo (she used to) and she's even stopped by to watch a class. She wants him to be able to open up to her. Which it has worked.

I've been watching to notice changes but I can't pinpoint anything. He does have this irrational fear of noise. Any loud noises sends him to a nervous wreck. He'll cover his ears and run (sometimes cry).

He also thinks everyone is picking on him. Someone barely walked past him and brushed his shoulder (by accident). he was fine. A few moments later (he was tired) he had a meltdown because someone touched him.

He's always been affectionate, touchy, hug me I love you kind of child.

I don't know.....

That's very good that your teacher becomes more of a friend than just someone who blabs the ABCs all day. It's difficult for AS kids to make friends at school, and so it winds up being several long hours of boredom, and in bad cases, unpleasantness to torture.

That irrational fear of noise is another AS trait, hypersensitivity. Take your noise perception, and turn the volume up about 10 notches, and you'll have it.

The brushing thing may be related to this. The first incident is just a brush, and nothing too surprising. Big difference when it's actual touching though. Again, turn it up 10 notches and you'll have an idea on what it's like.

I see what you're saying. I'm just using the terms that "are labeled".

we went to the science museum and they had a wack-a-mole game above and the haudralics (spelling) sent him over the edge. He's been that way since he was little. he had 4 sets of tubes in his ears before he was 34 months old & adnoids removed.

He still to this day will not lay in the tub to wash his hair. Nothing can get near his ears. He won't go swimming because of it. I have to take him to the ped. doc to get his ears flushed out.

The tubes he has may be the reason for avoiding the water, etc... They may exascerbate the sensitivity problems, but they are NORMAL for AS people.

alliegirl,

His teacher got him because he is ADD. She is young, 28 but wonderful all the same. She actually teaches regular class, but gets the ADD kids because she's qualified to deal with them.

We've talked and she tries very hard. She was concerned first by his reluctantcy to be touched. He lets family love on him....but select others. She tried to console him one time and he told her not to touch him. During his meltdown yesterday....he let her pick him up and hold him in her lap.

She tells him all the time she loves him. He told her that he didn't derserve his "halloween basket" because he was bad. She told him he did derserve it. She tries very hard. She wants him labeled correctly so he doesn't struggle. She's explained to me that she wants him to have friends and has even enlisted the help of two 5th grade boys that watch out for him.

They are his "big brothers" and adore him. They actually stopped the bullying on the bus (we tried...but you can't watch children 24/7). They told the 4th grader that was their buddy, leave him alone.

So....it's a work in progress.

I also have the worst problem with him waking up screaming (if he's in the car....not as much now as before) with him throwing off his shoe and biting his foot. He says "they tickle". I'll ask him if they fell asleep and he says no.

After many months of this I asked his doc (several different occasions) he told me that it's probably from his feet sweating and his socks make his feet uncomfortable. It's never both feet, only one at a time.

His feet sweat a lot.....actually a whole lot....

but is this an aspie reaction? Or just him?